This is part of man culture that we men need to change one step at a time. Instead we bully each other over it.
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captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks agoWhat happens to a man when he shares his feelings? Has that ever gone well for any male since the evolution of meiosis?
habitualcynic@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
No we don’t. That’s a feminist lie. The women whose political power depends on maintaining a perpetual state of victimhood by blaming every single thing on men would have you believe that.
Men will have conversations like this:
“Tiffany left me.”
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“Really?”
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swig of beer
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“Yeah. Said I’m not ‘available enough.’”
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swig of beer
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“Shit dude.”
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“Yeah.”
Enough information is shared for one man to put himself in the other’s shoes, think about what he went through, and arrive at the same place for himself. That need women have to put their feelings into words to yap at each other is just a symptom of their abject inability to empathize with their fellow sentient beings.
You know what doesn’t occur to men to share with other men? “Breaking news, this just in from our correspondants in the field: Nothing continues to happen.” In fact I’m going to go post that to the Dull Men’s Club community and see what comments that attracts.
No, the people who will destroy you for being anything other than fine are the women in your life. Your mother, your sisters, your daughters, whatever name your sexual partner(s) insist on being called. They’re the ones who will kick you the hardest when you’re down. You will never be more alone than when you’re surrounded by women.
5gruel@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
As someone who had very different experiences with women and prefers opening up to them over men, I can assure you that there is a healthier way of living out there and I hope you can let go of your bitterness some day.
habitualcynic@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Just reading that makes it sound like you hate women. I’m sure you don’t…but if you’re giving off that kind of feeling / vibe whatever you want to call it, then maybe that’s why you feel alone when you’re surrounded by women. People can pick up on cues like that and avoid people like that.
Also,
menpeople need to talk more than in your example. This is the exact kind of behavior and thinking that contributes to male loneliness.Enough information is shared for one man to put himself in the other’s shoes, think about what he went through, and arrive at the same place for himself.
You just created an example where you imply it’s not okay for men to need more than this. That’s not healthy for you or anyone dude.
captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
Women have worked pretty hard to earn my apathy, so why should I deny them the prize they so vehemently seek? They’re not on my side, as an intentional consequence I am not on theirs.
T156@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
You’ve never heard men say “dude, just suck it up and get over it already. Don’t be a wuss.” about similar issues to other men?
captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
I am reminded of a book called Good To Go by Harry Constance, a US Navy SEAL who served in Vietnam. The exact line of the book it reminds me of is “No swimming.”
I’ve once heard it said that men insult their friends but don’t really mean it, women compliment their friends but they don’t mean it either. I’ll take “Come on, walk it off you’re alright” over faked sympathy every day for 37 more years.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 4 weeks ago
About relationship stuff I can honestly say that I haven’t ever seen that. Other than like “hey I know you’re hurting but why don’t you come out with us and we’ll try to help you get back on the horse”. Which I think is pretty positive.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 4 weeks ago
Ask the exs I cried in front of who then lost their physical attraction to me. Never doing that again. Having sex semi-regularly is a he’ll of a lot better than having a shoulder to cry on.
zipzoopaboop@lemmynsfw.com 4 weeks ago
Gets avoided, gets called gay, gets told to man up, gets made fun of
OopsOverbombing@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
That’s kinda sad but true. Fun fact though, you get to choose your friends. If any of mine reacted like that I’d stop hanging out with them. It’s imperative you have a solid social circle who is gonna help and raise you up. If the toxic masculinity bros wanna hate on being human and having feelings they can fuck off and they’re not invited to my party. Only cool people are allowed.
SLVRDRGN@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
This, too, is how I roll.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 4 weeks ago
Yeah, I stopped hanging around my toxic friends too. This was a big part of why I was lonely throughout my 20s.