thebestaquaman
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- Comment on Anon has marital problems 2 days ago:
This might be a language think, but as I understand “abuse” implies some degree of intent, repetitiveness, or suppression of the victims response, no?
If someone is punched, you would typically call that assault, while if they are punched on several occasions while being prevented from seeking help, you would call it abuse.
Likewise, if someone is yelled at or scolded or manipulated on one occasion, you usually would say that they were “yelled at, scolded, or manipulated”, while if it occurs systematically over time you would refer to it as abuse.
Please correct me if I’m wrong here
- Comment on Anon has marital problems 2 days ago:
I disagree, I don’t think these two are comparable.
Physical violence cannot be undone. Saying that you want to leave someone, and then breaking down upon noticing your mistake is something that can be talked through. If someone beats you, and says it was an accident, you’ll still be bruised and feel unsafe around them, even if you understand them and have empathy for them. On the other hand, if you understand and have empathy for a partner that said they would leave you because they honestly though you would be happier without them, you can help them get better and move on.
- Comment on Anon has marital problems 2 days ago:
I mentioned it in another comment, but I’ll repeat it here: This doesn’t necessarily have to be emotional abuse. It can well be a result of the wife being in a bad place, having little self-worth, and convincing herself that anon would be better off without her. Perhaps anon’s response caused her to re-think and reconsider, hence the subsequent breakdown.
- Comment on Anon has marital problems 2 days ago:
To be fair, it doesn’t have to be mind games, she could have been in a bad place and somehow figured out for herself that the best thing to do was to end the relationship, but realised that she was wrong. There are people who genuinely believe that they can make other peoples lives better by leaving them (a kind of “you would do better without me, I’m only pulling you down” mentality), that could do something like this not to manipulate the other person, but because they actually care about them, but are in a bad place themselves.
- Comment on Evil 4 days ago:
I was thinking the same thing, does anyone have any context as to why the Beer license is not considered free? If I’m to guess it probably has something to do with copyleft-restrictions (or lack thereof).
- Comment on Wait, my body's own heat is enough? Always has been. 3 weeks ago:
Right chilly today innit?
- Comment on Jake Rule vs Mike Ruleson 5 weeks ago:
Absolutely! I remember going from “holy shit this guy is terrifying and we have video evidence of him being able to kick ass” to “what the fuck? These not-as-terrifying looking people are messing him up bad!”
- Comment on What should I bring to far-north Scandinavia? 5 weeks ago:
There’s a lot of good advice here already, especially that wool is the gold standard - nothing synthetic cuts it. I want to add that the absolute key is about layering, and not over-stuffing.
What keeps you warm is primarily the air trapped between your layers, which means that three thin layers can be a lot better than one thick layer. This also means that you will be freezing if your layers are too tight. If you have two thin layers, and put on a sweater, and that sweater feels tight, that likely means you’re pushing out the air trapped in your inner layers, and they won’t be as effective. The same applies when putting on a jacket.
So: You want a thin base layer (think light, thin wool shirt + long johns), then an optional medium layer or two (slightly thicker wool shirt, I have some in the range of 200 grams), and finally a thicker sweater for when you’re not moving. These should increase in size so that they can fit the thinner layers underneath, and you want your jacket big enough to fit all the underlying layers.
Finally: When you’re moving around, you will get stupidly warm and sweaty unless you take off clothes. It’s better to take off some stuff and be a bit cold for the first 10 minutes of moving than to get sweaty and be cold for the rest of the day. If (when) you do get cold, running in a circle for 10 min will fix it (run at a calm, steady pace, if you’re really cold it might take longer to get warm than you think, but you will get warm if you move).
In short: Being in a cold climate is just as much about how you use your equipment, and how you activate yourself to stay warm, as it is about what equipment you have.
- Comment on my idiot friend printed parts of my 3d printed gun experiment with pla instead of abs 1 month ago:
Using the wrong filament isn’t Darwin Award worthy. Test firing a newly manufactured weapon with your hand is. And that would be true even if this wasn’t an experimental home-made design…
- Comment on Grr Windows 1 month ago:
Totally justifiable IMO. In my day-to-day life its much more important that my shit works when I need it to than that I get whatever potentially something-breaking latest hotfix patch for everything on my system. Put simply: My OS, and the packages I use, work. If I don’t update, I’m sure it will also keep working. When I have time for an update to break something, or want to pull in some new feature or patch, I’ll run an update.
- Comment on Clever, clever 1 month ago:
The whole “maybe if the homework can be done by a machine then its not worth doing” thing is such a gross misunderstanding. Students need to learn how the simple things work in order to be able to learn the more complex things later on. If you want people that are capable of solving problems the machine can’t do, you first have to teach them the things the machine can in fact do.
In practice, compute analytical derivatives or do mildly complicated addition by hand. We have automatic differentiation and computers for those things. But I having learned how to do those things has been absolutely critical for me to build the foundation I needed in order to be able to solve complex problems that an AI is far from being able to solve.
- Comment on Anon questions physics 2 months ago:
What you’re thinking about is the relation between energy, temperature, and heat capacity. When you add energy to a system (e.g. heat) the amount of energy you need to heat it up a certain amount is described by its heat capacity. If your molecules can “wiggle” (i.e. they’re multi-atomic) a portion of the energy you’re adding will go to increasing the “wiggling” rather than the mean speed of the molecules.
What we perceive as temperature is related to the mean speed of the molecules, so because molecules that can “wiggle” more will require more heat to see the same increase in mean speed as non-wiggling molecules (because some of the heat is going to increasing the wiggling) they have higher heat capacity.
It should also be mentioned that even the concept of temperature is really a statistical concept, so it doesn’t really make much sense to talk about the temperature of a single isolated molecule, or even a pair of them. Temperature as a concept starts to be fruitful to talk about in the thermodynamic limit which classically means “a whole shitload of molecules”, but (relatively) recent research suggests “a whole shitload” can be as little as 10-30 molecules. Once you go below the thermodynamic limit, we’re not really talking about the temperature of a system, but it’s energy, which is still well defined (although definitions may vary depending on context). Depending on who you ask, it can make sense to define a temperature also for single-particle systems, but at that point we’re talking about applying thermodynamic definitions that work (and are correct in the macroscopic limit) and no longer about what we classically perceive as temperature.
- Comment on It appenes that my email has gotten on the hands of some scammers with a botnet or something. What do I do? 2 months ago:
I’ve never had an issue with this before, and as of now, my filter is catching most of these mails, so in that sense it’s not too bad. Unless the topic of the phishing attempts suddenly change completely, in which case I’ll have to start building the filter again…
Anyway: The scam they’re running is relatively specific (a specific banking-thing that pretty much everyone in my country uses, written in not-English, probably LLM generated). Do you know if there’s any way I could alert my email-provider about this? I can imagine it’s being sent to quite a few people, and should be relatively easy for someone higher up the chain, with more sophisticated tools, to filter out.
- Comment on It appenes that my email has gotten on the hands of some scammers with a botnet or something. What do I do? 2 months ago:
Since you chose to point it out: My reason is that I regularly need to be able to log into things on a non-personal machine, sometimes without access to my phone. So no, a password manager for all my accounts is out of the picture. I either write stuff down, remember it, or - sometimes - forget it and need to reset my password.
- Comment on It appenes that my email has gotten on the hands of some scammers with a botnet or something. What do I do? 2 months ago:
Thanks! I’ll definitely look into that, though the only issue I can imagine is keeping track of which email that goes to which service (I’m one of those kinds of people that uses “Forgot my password” effectively as a password manager, don’t hate me for it, I have reasons).
- Comment on It appenes that my email has gotten on the hands of some scammers with a botnet or something. What do I do? 2 months ago:
Thanks! There was nothing there, so it may be from an older breach like you suggested :/
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- Comment on Lawless society 2 months ago:
I’m not quite sure what assumptions you’re talking about, but I do want to hear what you have to say.
What you’re answering to is about opposing external hostile forces, that wasn’t what I was talking about. I’m talking about internal criminal environments that are dispersed in the population and make a living off anything from fabricating documents or scamming people to trafficking or smuggling. Just like modern organised criminal environments, these are not groups you can “wage war” against.
My question is related to how these will be dealt with if not by involuntary imprisonment/re-education/some other involuntary and enforced way of preventing them from exploiting society?
- Comment on Lawless society 2 months ago:
Ok, I’m only really having issue with the “which shouldn’t be hard” part. What makes you think that violent response from an anarchist society would be more effective than the police/justice system in a modern state?
These groups exist today, and it turns out that making them crumble by arresting (or, in some countries, executing) their members is a significantly non-trivial task. That’s when you have an organised force opposing them, which doesn’t need to deal with internal disputes the way an anarchistic force would need to.
- Comment on Lawless society 2 months ago:
I’m asking: In a hypothetical anarchist society, how do you deal with organised criminal environments that live off exploiting other members of society, and who refuse to follow rules or rulings created by the consensus of those that don’t want to be exploited?
I’m pointing out that these groups exist and have existed in more or less every society of decent size, so they must be factored in somehow. I’m also pointing out the “voluntary prison, or else you’ll be excluded from society” likely doesn’t work, as these are people that have already accepted living a life on the side of the rest of society, within their own environment.
- Comment on Lawless society 2 months ago:
So what do you do to deal with the situation we see in modern states with an actual centralised “monopoly” on violence: Organised criminal environments that live off exploiting the rest of society?
We’re talking about people that don’t care if you shun them, because they have their own environment, with their own hierarchy and set of rules, and they’re willing to use violence to exploit the rest of society to make a living.
- Comment on So professional looking it must be true 3 months ago:
I just came back to Europe after a couple weeks in the US. The US was beautiful (travelled in the Rockies). I was surprised by the fact that I unironically would not be able to live there just because of the food. Everything was so drowned in cheese / sugar / unspecified ultraprocessed something that I had legitimate digestion issues the first week.
- “I would like an omelette please”
- “Yes sir, do you want eggs in that or just the cheese?”
I had no idea I could miss just plain real bread as much as I did by the time I got back.
- Comment on Burning Up 3 months ago:
Idk why you guys are so passionate about this whole rounding thing? Rounding off 107 to 100 doesn’t change the information, only the precision. It’s not easier to interpret 200 than 212 or anything?
If you want quick conversion, just
F ≈ 2 * C + 30
- Comment on Burning Up 3 months ago:
Centi = 1e-2, deci = 1e-1
Regards, Non-American
- Comment on if you're not going to let me do this microsoft then let me turn off auto restart all together. 3 months ago:
The point the other commenter is making, which I fully agree with, is that I can have legitimate reasons for not wanting to update. Windows shoving updates down my throat when they can potentially break critical stuff on my machine is pretty much just equivalent to forcing malware on me.
- Comment on Reddit Undeleted all my posts and comments 3 months ago:
I’ve been doing the same thing, went back to read it now, and I have to admit I had a good time. Even though it took time to manually turn my comments into gibberish, it gave some hilarious results!
- Comment on Very mindful... 3 months ago:
Vertical video platform
I’m stealing this term
- Comment on We're in a very verify-happy era of technology 4 months ago:
That would be fine, I can live with choosing two of those for any given account.
What I hate is when the company offering the service forces its choice on me. I may be reliant on logging into some specific account without access to my phone, but then along comes company X and says “NOPE! Your account security is more important than you being able to access your own stuff. We’re completely on board with locking you out of your own accounts in the name of security.”
To be clear, I’m talking about personal accounts. Those on a network where I’m responsible for preventing a breach are another matter of course.
- Comment on We're in a very verify-happy era of technology 4 months ago:
I’m surprised you’re getting downvoted so heavily: Is it really that controversial of an opinion that I want to be able to make the choice between reliable accessibility, efficiency, and hardened security for my personal stuff?
Of course: On a corporate network I have a responsibility to have a very secure account so that I’m not a weak point, I’m not talking about scenarios where my account being breached exposes others that I’m responsible for.
I’m talking about my personal accounts. I may want to choose to have a password and no 2FA, for the simple reason that I may want to be able to access my account from a library computer or internet cafe without having access to any of my devices. That reliable access may be more important to me than having heavier security, and nobody has any business asking me why, because it’s my data that I’m choosing how to protect. However, that’s become pretty much an impossibility by now, with everyone shoving 2FA and whatnot down my throat, regardless of what I want.
If I happen to lose/break my laptop and phone simultaneously, which is not unthinkable given that I carry both on me pretty much every day, I’m pretty much locked out of everything.
- Comment on What has he done to deserve this? 4 months ago:
Just remember to keep track of which BTU you’re using