MolochAlter
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- Comment on What is wrong with being "Black Pilled"? 22 hours ago:
Getting in shape won’t make you think you’re less ugly, you’ll just find different things to obsess over until you find something you can’t change.
Dysmorphia is a mental illness issue.
You can be ugly, or out of shape, or any of those things, but the idea that you are so uniquely, supremely ugly that you can’t make up for it in other ways is literally just internet idiots being idiots and not touching enough grass.
I’ve seen men with very obvious deformities happily married with kids, I’ve seen perfectly toned bodybuilders being (correctly) snubbed for being insecure dickheads, I’ve seen perfectly average dudes dating models, looks matter but not the way you think they do.
Get out of your head, get treatment if you truly have these feelings of immeasurable ugliness because they are a legit sign of treatable mental illness, and for the love of christ go out and make some normie friends, you clearly need them.
Normies are happy not because they “don’t get it” but because they are typically pretty well adjusted and average, while your online friends are just like you: a bunch of toaster fuckers who met in the toaster fucker forums reinforcing eachother’s obsession with dicking down toasters.
- Comment on What is wrong with being "Black Pilled"? 22 hours ago:
To be fair, are there many conversations where that comes up at all unless someone in the conversation is an ace/aro person?
- Comment on Ultima Underworld: The Stygian Abyss - Closest modern equivalent? 1 day ago:
Legend of Grimrock seems pretty close, i haven’t played it in years though so I might be misremembering.
- Comment on Thank you, Thor! 1 week ago:
whether or not this was intentional or misinformed is up for debate
It’s not, in his response to the initial controversy he cut out the part of Ross’ video that directly contradicted his misrepresentation, he’s a lying piece of shit.
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 1 week ago:
This makes me wonder why I’ve never heard this perspective before?
Well, I am not a progressive, for one. I agree with some principles but I disagree fundamentally on what a world that fulfills those principles looks like, so I can sympathise with the members of the movement but I find them misguided at best and actively hostile to my other principles at worst.
In fact, I know I proposed some ideas antithetical to some (IMO wrong) dogmas of the progressive movement, such as doing away with the politeness nuclar standoff, the tone policing, etc, not only because they’re actively hobbling the movement and making it politically irrelevant, though they are, but because they are things I find fundamentally detrimental to society at large if they were to ever become more mainstream than they already were until the recent fall out of favour of progressivism in the american zeitgeist. (And when america gets a cold the rest of the world starts sneezing)
I wonder if people say this in mostly conservative forums, and I just don’t see it from my personal fish bowl?
Perhaps, I wouldn’t know. I’m just a European liberal who has to sit on the sidelines and quietly hate american politics for polluting the rest of the world with its fumes, tilting the scales in favour of the far right as a backswing to a “far left” political climate that literally never materialised in our own countries just because your progressive movement’s optics are bad enough to be fucking radioactive.
It’s almost as if it would have been useful for this position to be expressed earlier to educate people before all the frustration occurred.
We tried to tell you and were called every single name under the sun.
Hell, I got told in this very thread that I want to create spaces hostile to women, by some coward who then deleted all their posts in response to me asking for a clarification as to why.
American liberals, do yourselves a favour and cut out the progressive activist tumor from your political sphere, let the far left deal with them, and just actually stick to your principles, if you still have any that aren’t entirely based on reflexively doing the opposite of what the right says.
- Comment on Why do people especially men care if someone forgives a cheating partner 1 week ago:
that most cheaters are never given a second chance
Source on that, also even then, the ones who are prove the statistic to be quite reliable. See here for the effects on both the cheater and the victim.
Considering the effects on the victim (suspicion even on non-cheating partners for years) you actually don’t deserve a second chance, even if you were on the straight and narrow for the rest of your life.
It’d be like you intentionally smashed his kneecap then stayed with him out of guilt to help him walk.
- Comment on Why do people especially men care if someone forgives a cheating partner 1 week ago:
right but the norm is already changing on so many other issues why is this an exception ?
Cause this change is actively immoral and harmful and people don’t want it, duh.
Things change because people want them to change. They don’t want this to change because they don’t want to enable potential cheaters in their lives, because as something becomes less socially stigmatised the less of a barrier there is to actually doing it.
- Comment on Why do people especially men care if someone forgives a cheating partner 1 week ago:
when he posted we were back together on his social media he had tons of people come out of the woodwork to tell him not to take me bac and I was a worthless woman that deserved no rights
See here’s the thing: a person who is able to rationalise something morally unjustifiable once, will be able to do it again.
By cheating you showed everyone you have no real spine to speak of, you can rationalise it all you like (that’s part of the problem) but the reality is that when you had the choice to break up and pursue the other person or not and cheat, you managed to talk yourself into accepting betraying the supposedly most important person in your life.
Moreover, there is absolutely no way for you to ever prove you won’t do it again until you die, and even then some people will still be skeptical even if you never do it again, and they’d be correct to be.
You may have grown a sense of respect for other people’s trusts, or you may have gotten better at cheating, or your boyfriend may have settled for a serial cheater and decided to turn the other way.
Either way they are trying to spare him from this AND to prevent society at large from accepting cheaters back into relationships because nobody, not even cheaters like you, wants cheating to be done to them, and making it something you can come back from makes it more likely.
- Comment on Signatures skyrocket for Stop Killing Games campaign after big youtubers take up the cause, resulting in 100k signatures in 2 days. (Details on how to help in text body of post) 2 weeks ago:
I don’t know if he genuinely didn’t understand or if he was too embarrassed to admit to a mistake
Worse, he actively lied. In his edited video about the petition he actively misrepresents the initiative, then goes on to edit out the the part of Ross’ video that would have contradicted his misrepresentation.
This is not an innocent or negligent mistake on Thor’s part, it’s an active attempt at burial.
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 2 weeks ago:
What part of TERF ideology is actually feminist
The part that is your standard boilerplate second wave feminism, the only difference is how they define “woman,” which simply hasn’t changed in the last 20 odd years to conform to the mainline progressive position.
They are effectively conservative feminists, which sounds counterintuitive until you realise feminism is old enough to easily fall within the range of things that can have a conservative/progressive split.
not a thinly veiled mask for conservative-based gender essentialist ideology
You mean like feminism was until the adoption of intersectional sociological lenses by the progressive part of the movement? (and it arguably still is essentialist, just on qualities other than birth sex)
Cause like, Andrea Dworkin, Valerie Solanas, Julie Bindel, they were feminists before a lot of the feminists of today were alive, and they don’t strike me as trans allies.
I’m genuinely curious because all the advocacy I’ve seen from TERFS is all about demonizing transgender women, infantilizing transgender men and… Siding suspiciously often with conservatives more than their supposed ideological ancestors.
You’re not wrong, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t feminists, it just means they have different ontological positions that lead them to side with different people.
Often the enemy you know, especially one that appears (but isn’t, in the case of conservatives) on the backfoot can look positively attractive compared to the new and alien.
If anything it should tell you how essentialist and misandrist second wave feminism was that they’d draw the line at male women and female men, and not at cis conservatives.
In brief, my point is: just because it’s not your wave of feminism that you identify with, doesn’t mean your wave doesn’t directly descend from it and that it didn’t pave the way for yours. Movements change and evolve, society as a whole was not trans inclusive at all until the late 00s, and even then it was touch and go, and it’s incredibly naïve to think that feminism, of all things, would somehow be morally lucky from its inception in the 1800s and never in ~150 years sided with the mainstream on axes other than pushing for women* to be equal to men* (*provided they are the right demographic on every other axis).
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 2 weeks ago:
Are you under the impression that the term “TERF” was invented in 2008 because that’s when trans exclusion became a thing?
Do you seriously think that a movement that over its lifespan at some point didn’t even include non-white women started off including non-female ones?
“Trans x are x” as a widespread progressive sociological stance is new, I don’t even know if it’s 20 years old, it may be closer to 10, even.
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 3 weeks ago:
there is a point at whoch your movement is compromised so much that winning doesn’t matter because the common goals of the movement are no longer desirable.
That’s why movements should be built around goals and not allegiance/morality.
“This is the movement to achieve X.”
“X has been achieved.”
“Aight, job well done, time to move on.”
This is what the right does, and they’re eating the left alive, maybe it’s worth taking this very non-partisan strategy from their playbook?
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 3 weeks ago:
violence is bad, you have to hear the nazi out
AKA the same provision that protects everyone with an unpopular opinion, yourself included, yes. That’s what liberal democracies do.
The state has a monopoly on violence, you don’t get to decide who doesn’t get rights, nor do the nazis.
The US is a bit of an exception obviously, you guys love your political violence (one could say you are built on it) and who am I to stop you, but Europe does not work that way and thank fuck for that, lol.
So yeah you have to let the nazi speak, that doesn’t mean you can’t talk over them, mock them, goad them into striking first so the cops will crack down on them, etc.
I’m Italian so I guarantee you I know that it’s a complex landscape to navigate, with actual fascists (the roman salute kind, not the “we’re cops and we will do our job” ““fascists””) in a lot of police strike teams, and in the current government (Thankfully I live abroad, shit’s bad at home right now), I know it’s no picnic to actually maintain a liberal society, but other countries consistently succeed, like France and the Netherlands, or the nordics.
It takes effort and a lot of education from early on, and that the population appreciates the importance of that education and the values it is supposed to impart.
Conversely it was “me ne frego” and the widespread apathy towards it that condemned italy to Mussolini’s rule, not civil debate.
Moreover, allowing and embracing political violence doesn’t work when one side is already chomping at the bit and better at it than your side, but that’s a practical consideration rather than an ethical/moral one.
Mind you this does not mean “don’t defend yourself” it means “don’t strike first”
Embrace the Roman doctrine: we will never pick up arms first, but if forced to we will only lay them second.
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 3 weeks ago:
IMO it depends on how much you value being morally correct vs overall effectiveness of the movement.
And this entire thought process is why the left gets weaker every round of elections.
Politics is about seizing and wielding power, morality has nothing to do with it.
For one, any grifter can pretend to be more morally correct than you or I and once they get in power they will do whatever they want anyway. I would much rather side with someone who disagrees with me on some things but does so in earnest than someone who is suspiciously always somehow more moral and more correct than me or them.
For two, morality is literally incompatible with politics, because it is downstream from the body politic.
For instance: It is considered immoral to own slaves, today. It used to be allowed and to the mores of the time, uncontroversial.
Then enough people who disagreed with that stance pushed to gain power and made it illegal, once that became the status quo for long enough it is now controversial to hold a position that was the default and viceversa.
Something becomes a matter of morality once it is no longer a matter of politics.
In practice, you don’t actually need support for all your ideas, you need enough good ideas to get you enough support that you can then push through your less popular pet issues. Even better if the pet issues themselves are popular, that’s when you get explosive successes like Trump getting re-elected by hammering the inflation button (despite anyone who knows anything about econ knowing he would be literally unable to do anything about it).
As long as people are not actively against your pet issues they’ll re-elect you just fine, that’s how croneyism skates by unnoticed.
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 3 weeks ago:
Keep in mind I’m not saying to accept TERFs, I’m saying to be smart about letting them cut themselves off instead of forcing them out.
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 3 weeks ago:
They were here before you, just because you disagree with them doesn’t make them not feminists.
This is a great example of what I meant, btw: progressives act like every protestant denomination, calling eachother “not real christians” not realising they are all the same brand of sanctimonious.
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 3 weeks ago:
Given the fact that there is a massive backswing towards the right in most of the west, very much riding a wave against progressive politics, with the largest gender divide in viting demographics on record in the US, and a republican winning the popular vote for the first time since Bush’s second term?
US Progressives need to worry about this, not everyone else. Everyone else is telling progressives to shove off.
“Progress” does not exist, only marxists think history is a linear path from bad to good, reality is a bit more complex. (a good answer to pretty much any of Marx’s arguments, incidentally)
If you want your worldview to win, and your worldview is both against the ruling class, its supporters, and doing anything to onboard them? You’re just not going to win. You’re not going to win even if you were to execute a revolution because you just don’t have any measurable support.
So, unless you just want to circlejerk about how right you are and accomplish nothing, you should look into how to get the people on your side, very much including the demographic that makes up most of the politicians.
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 3 weeks ago:
I have a bit of a preconceived notion as to why you are saying this, however I would rather ask you to be more specific before jumping to conclusions. Can you give concrete examples as to how my suggestions would alienate women?
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 3 weeks ago:
This is all from the perspective of a non-american from a country where thankfully we are still liberal at heart and only entertain some progressive ideas, instead of buying it wholesale, meaning the right has yet to completely cannibalise the government over the mistakes of the left.
- Move away from equity and return to equality of opportunity as the main goal. Equity demands lack of competition, and men love competition.
You can want everyone to receive equal opportunity and dignity, but people are not equal and will not end in the same place once the race is over. You can’t demand equality of outcome and onboard the most competitive demographic, there is a reason if the stereotype of leftist men is passive wimps. This is completely compatible with prgressive ideas, but it’s incompatible with progressive brains, apparently.
- Actually understand what intersectionality looks like, stop treating it like a hierarchy of oppression.
The core idea of intersectionality is that each demographic has its own issues and they manifest differently if more demographics overlap in the same individual (e.g. sexism against white women vs sexism against black women exhibit different tropes and connotations).
This does not mean whoever has the least minoritary traits is the most acceptable target, that is some marxist “oppressor vs oppressed” horseshit and, while it was probably the intended idea, it is massively counterproductive and doesn’t have to be the actual application of the issue.
Men have issues that women don’t have, women have issues that men don’t have. As soon as your movement decides to prioritise one they have lost the other.
The reason this does not happen with race is that no movement in the US can realistically exist politically without white people simply by virtue of how huge the white slice of the demo pie is, and because this whole thing was started by highly educated, economically mobile, overwhelingly white, college grads who live in very specific coastal bubbles, hence the endemic hatred of farmers and factory workers, the actual working class of the US, as hicks and racists, and the lionisation of serving staff like baristas and waiters (the only working class most large city dwellers ever interact with).
- Move away from “patriarchy”.
It’s just a fucking L on its face isn’t it? “Yes come join the party that thinks men being in power is the problem” fat fucking chance lol.
And when they do join, the parodies write themselves.
I don’t care if you think it’s “just a name” (especially in light of what progs consistently do over “just a name” and “just a statue” and so on) it’s a massive optics L that shows all of the horseshit about microaggressions and non-confrontational language and whatnot are entirely performative.
You have the most obvious othering language in the core ideas of the movement and then complain about microaggressions? And you wonder why people don’t take you seriously?
And while we’re on that:
- Politeness is baseline, respect is earned. Confrontation is necessary and men are more likely to thrive in confrontational spaces.
You can’t have a political movement that does not tolerate dissent and confrontation, or only tolerates it in one direction.
The whole point of politics is to create a critical mass of people who align on some goal to push for it, you don’t have to agree with them on every point, if you had enough people who agree with you, you would be already in the majority and would not need to participate in politics.
Easy example from the last decade: TERFs.
Now, I don’t like TERFs, on account of them being radfems and thus automatically hostile to me due to the circumstances of my birth (i.e. penis), but you know what? I reckon they probably want women to have better salaries and fewer barriers to entry into professional fields.
Let them force themselves into political irrelevance if they refuse to play ball, don’t make a big fucking show of kicking them out of the movement, because then you end up on the back foot of having to explain “trans women are women” to the mass population and the TERFs simply need to say “look at these brainwashed biology deniers, they think males and females have no differences” and you end up eating your own ass in public, when the point is that trans women ought to be treated as women for their own good and a more welcoming society.
(side note: if you are in that brainless chunk of progs who do believe there is no difference between the sexes, I highly encourage you to look at the world records in any discipline with easily measured metrics such as 100m dash and freestyle swimming. Not a single male record is under the women’s record, in some cases every historical male record eclipses the current female one. Males and females are different, this should be acknowledged, and it should not be a barrier to equal dignity in treatment.)
A movement that can’t include anyone but the most in-line and pure of the ideological adepts is doomed to be irrelevant, and on that the progressives have an almost complete lock.
- Comment on Digital Foundry: Yes, It's Faster: Switch 2 Back Compat vs Batman Arkham Knight + the Witcher 3 5 weeks ago:
Both Arkham Knight and Witcher 3 exist on steam so the comparison is possible either way
- Comment on Persona 4 Remake Is Apparently Happening, As Voice Actor Confirms He's Not Coming Back For It 1 month ago:
I stopped caring about the American dub as soon as they recast Chie for P4G anyway, what’s one more change at this point
- Comment on I'm a console gamer so, Why the hate on the Epic Games Store? 1 month ago:
Kinda, unfortunately.
It was great when it had its niche, and I still buy games there occasionally, but it has poorer integration with pretty much anything, Galaxy is bloated as hell, and it has explicitly no linux/deck support.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
Correct! In general, if there is tech A that does a thing for a demographic, tech B can really only hope to pick up demographic !A
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
Lemmy suffers from the “alt-tech curse” in that since there is perfectly serviceable, normie friendly tech, for someone to come to the alternative you have to be not so normie.
Gab, Parler, Voat back in the day, Mastodon and Lemmy, bluesky, etc are all part of the same phenomenon of micro-exodi from established sites due to fitting poorly with existing moderation which, given the fact normies still use the sites, means we’re always looking at extremists of some kind.
Whether it’s the tankies on lemmy.ml, or the progs on bluesky, or the tradcons on parler and gab, it’s always some group being told “if you don’t like it here go make your own” and them doing it.
The problem is this makes these environments extremely off-putting to normies as every single motherfucker on each of these platforms has at least a Bachelor’s degree in scaring the hoes.
The reality is, if you want normie content, you’re gonna find it on platforms used by normies.
Lemmy is too niche to have karma farming bots reposting the same shit every hour, so cat videos etc are in short supply, and most of the people who do participate here have scary levels of politics brainrot.
- Comment on Palworld confirms ‘disappointing’ game changes forced by Pokémon lawsuit 2 months ago:
Sorry, I meant that most companies do fixes to comply with local legislations/sentences and then ignore them everywhere else, Pocketpair can’t do that because they are being sentenced in their home jurisdiction, so their infractions in other jurisdictions could and would still be brought to court.
- Comment on Palworld confirms ‘disappointing’ game changes forced by Pokémon lawsuit 2 months ago:
Most companies do stuff like that but pocketpair is based in Japan so they can’t, they’d be held accountable.
- Comment on Palworld confirms ‘disappointing’ game changes forced by Pokémon lawsuit 2 months ago:
Add one to the list. Really enjoyable, even fun to cheese, not very fond of the ending but otherwise stellar.
- Comment on Did the western world just suddenly go back to pretending wrestling is "real" for some reason? 2 months ago:
Far as I know, not very.
Real combat with weapons is not all that entertaining.
You nick a guy in the right place and he’ll die a slow agonising death in the locker room, far from the eyes of the crowd, then you’re down an athlete and even the enslaved ones aren’t cheap, and they need training, and housing, and feeding, etc.
Moreover this may happen at any point of the fight and that’s not very satisfying to watch, think Mike Tyson one-hit KO vs a 20 minute banger with back nad forth.
So obviously you’d make it look good and take your time, send the crowd home happy. Even were it a real competition, which it was at times.
Gladiators that were intantionally killed in the arena were “bought” by the editor (the person paying for the games overall), and it was at a premium. Afterall the lanista got a major cut of their stable’s wins, so you’d have to cover the sum of all the potential winnings of the rest of their careers, and then some, to make it worth it.
So it wasn’t quite pro wrestling, but it was definitely close, the economics of it make more sense that way, and the longevity of certain documented gladiators also.
- Comment on Did the western world just suddenly go back to pretending wrestling is "real" for some reason? 2 months ago:
This isn’t an achievement. Why is this in my sports news next to last night’s hockey scores instead of next to an article about who was the bitchiest on the lastest episode of Real Housewives?
Because wrestling is a huge business and it has a lot of overlap with combat sports fans.
Like…of course he did. It’s the storyline. It’s quite literally “in the script”.
Yesn’t.
An actor breaking the record for most best performer oscars won in a career would also be newsworthy, yet you can absolutely pay your way to an oscar.
John Cena is remarkable in that he’s such a draw that a multi-billion dollar organization decided to set his career as the new ceiling to break for the next big star, by breaking a record untouched for decades, might I add. That’s newsworthy.
That isn’t scripted, that is a performer being skilled at what he does, as much as I personally don’t enjoy his work.
But I thought at some point they steered into the whole “entertainment” aspect when most of us grew the hell up and clued into the absurdity of it all.
This is like, the most “I learned something so the rest of the world learned it with me” I’ve ever seen.
Wrestling has been known to be fake for over a century; newspapers stopped reporting on it as a factual sport in the early 1900s.
Hell, it was known to be fakery before it was ever televised.
Kids don’t know until they do.
It’s live action martial arts anime theater. No more, no less.
tl;dr: Should John Cena’s record-breaking 17th title win be in the papers? absolutely. Sports section? Maybe, depends. It is a “sport” in the same way that figure skating or synchronised swimming is.
- Comment on I'm bored and desperately search for a proper game 2 months ago:
I see no mention of Starsector, there should be mention of Starsector.
Try Starsector.