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@cabbage@piefed.social

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why does it seem like many Americans have an arrogant personality trait?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  There are good replies here already, but I just want to emphasize the role of bragging. It seems boasting about yourself is quite accepted and sometimes perhaps even expected in the US. In Europe it is not at all, and we tend to react strongly to it.

  Whenever I've found Americans to be insufferable they've always been bragging or taking themselves too seriously.

  Not all Americans obviously. And I guess a lot of Americans can't stand these people either. But it's still a common American trait that very few Europeans will have patience for.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I guess it depends on the art style. But generally, if you want to do it the hard way:

  1. Get a drawing tablet. The ones where you draw directly on a screen are the best, but they are also way more expensive.
  2. Get some powerful software that can imitate brushes. Krita is good.
  3. Practice, experiment, watch videos and gather knowledge on both the art style and your software of choice. Copy pieces of art in the style you want to reproduce until you master it.

  With an emphasis on the third point. Digital art done manually is not so different from traditional art - it takes practice.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Will threads affect lemmy or just mastodon?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Lemmy does not display microblogs. So the only way we'd see content from Threads here is if someone on Threads somehow stumbles over content from here (for example if it's boosted by a Mastodon user they follow), and leaves a comment.

  So basically it expands the theoretical reach of the comment section, but in practice it's unlikely to have a huge effect.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨mbin instance looking at lemmy community showing "magazine [community] is not receiving updates"⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Did you subscribe to it? Updates from communities are only received if at least one user is a subscribed to them, so you could probably fix this by subscribing. :)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨mbin instance looking at lemmy community showing "magazine [community] is not receiving updates"⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It could mean your mbin instance has been defederated from the Lemmy instance the community is hosted on, or that the community is hosted on an instance that has gone offline. For some reason or another, Mbin used to federate with the community, but it doesn't any more.

  It could be usful to know which Mbin instance you're on, and which communities appear broken.

  Also, welcome back! :)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Job related: Am I being stupid?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It seems you have accidentally found some meaning in your work, something your old self apparently couldn't imagine. Meaning is incredibly important - life is too short to sit around doing as little as possible in order to make money. Humans need meaning, and you're still human even while at work.

  So you're not being stupid at all.

  Where it becomes tricky is if you are offered positions with less meaning but more money/career opportunities. It's important not to be run over; meaning and wages needs to be balanced. But it seems the wages are the same here, and neither option is a health risk, so I would pick what's meaningful for you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Wouldn't the right wing of the Democratic party be pretty standard Tory?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I think the different interpretation of "standing out like a freak" part is more generational. He's not saying people with gender dysphoria are freaks—standing out like a freak is the feeling you have somewhere when you feel completely out of place and uncomfortable. Like if you're wearing yellow socks to a funeral. Nobody comments on it and you're not sure anyone even sees them, but you feel like you're standing out like a freak because you're constantly thinking about it and feeling out of place and as if you don't belong.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That's awesome.

  As for therapy before surgery, I think this is not a bad suggestion. An unbiased and professional therapist would not try to change who you are, but to see if you can learn to be happy with who you are.

  Personally I'm a big fan of breaking down gender norms, and for people to say a big "fuck that" to all the expectations that comes with a specific gender. I know being trans is different, but I can't help but suspect that in some occasions (not all) feeling like not belonging to a given sex is contingent upon not so much the body itself, but the stupid-ass expectations we place upon a given gender as a society. Breaking down these norms is hard and important work in its own right, and something one could explore with a (serious) therapist before taking it to a surgeon. So in my (possibly ignorant) mind, suggesting therapy alone first is not a bad thing, though it can sound like it.

  Most importantly, it seems he loves you and supports you unconditionally, and he has made a real solid (and successful) effort to understand as well. So whatever you do, it seems he'll be there for you even if it requires effort from his side. You have a good father.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Venezuelan Migrant Sent to Guantánamo Bay Is ‘Not a Criminal,’ Family Pleads⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I don't think neons referred to him, but to Americans.

  As in "look at the fascist fucking mess we have made for ourselves, and it has barely even started. We asked for this and now it's happening, it's all our falult and it's all fucked".

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Sotomayor Says Presidents Are Not Monarchs and Must Obey Rulings⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  You're talking about two different things.

  One is the legal side. Legally, you cannot go out in the street and punch the first child you see in the face.

  The other side is purely practical. For sure you are capable of doing it, so if you also have the intention of doing it the only thing that remains to be seen is whether anyone is capable of stopping you.

  Justice Sotomayor is not claiming that Trump cannot do this practically, she's merely saying that it would be illegal. And sure, it probably won't stop Trump from trying, but as a Justice of the SCOTUS, she's kinda supposed to comment on the legality of stuff.

  As for pundits, they should have realized a long time ago that Trump didn't give much of a shit about the legality of things, and focused more on what he is practically capable of doing than what he's legally capable of.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How to mute posts containing certain keywords on Lemmy?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I saw that Trump and Musk are muted when not signed in, but for obvious reasons I haven't done onboarding for a while. Neat stuff.

  I'll just add that setting up custom filters is also easy as pie.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Am I ugly?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  No worries! And don't let the negativity in this thread get to you - it's nothing personal, people are just convinced you're not real. If anything, I guess that's a weird compliment of sorts. The best one could hope for coming from the Internet, perhaps.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Am I ugly?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Over on Reddit, people posting pictures of some good looking person and asking "am I ugly" is a pretty common way of farming karma.

  Reverse image search is a way to find where pictures have been posted before on Google. Here's the search for your image. It appears Google and Reddit has gotten bad to the point where they say your picture was posted 7 years ago, even though this would appear to be false.

  Combine the two, and there's a perfect storm where people assume you're some 50 year old guy with a weird kink. Sorry about that.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Am I ugly?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  ...but when you click those links in google reverse image search, they show completely different people. Except the one posted an hour ago. I have no idea what is going on here, just seems weird to me.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What do I do for my sister/her friend?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I was a patient kid in school, teachers would pair me up with difficult kids and expect me to fix them without ever telling me that was their strategy. My patience wore real thin.

  If the teachers are pushing for this, telling them that she's approaching a breaking point and that this is not sustainable might help. Or it might not, teachers are only human and who knows what is going on in their heads.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  If you want this as a platform to socialize, I think the best thing you can do is to follow your interests, see if there are communities in what you're interested in here already, and if there are not see if you can get one started.

  One community I find particularly inspiring is !superbowl@lemmy.world, initiated by a single user (@ anon6789@lemmy.world) who is making an amazing effort and now attracting quite a bit of attention from a bunch of followers.

  But of course, it can also be challenging to build a community, as well as time consing - I have to admit I don't really interact that much with online communities myself these days.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I have a tendency to give off a very unprofessional :| during these meetings, but that's reserved for IRL only.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I only ever use :) myself. Can't think of a work email where :( seems appropriate.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is it called Lemmy 🤔?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I think, on your end, my user name probably shows as just "cabbage", not "@cabbage". Which indicates it's a user name (not exclusive), not a handle (exclusive).

  Similarly, OP shows up to me as "Aurora (she/her)" rather than "aurora_glamour", which is her handle. Piefed still displays the instance though.

  It might not be ideal, as it makes imposters possible. Then again, that has always been the case by using visually identical Unicode characters, so it's not entirely a new problem.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is it called Lemmy 🤔?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I never cared much about Reddit, but then again, I'm not using Lemmy either. So maybe you're right.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Welcome here! It's more focused on public discussion and less on individuals here, but there are some friendly communities around here as well. I hope you'll like it, but it might not indeed be the best platform for developing proper friendships. :)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Sweet user name!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is the Nintendo Switch 2 the end of innovative consoles?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I guess this is more like the GBC / GBA shift, considering DS, DS Lite and for the most part DSi all played the same games.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Does anyone actually know what MAGA all agree they are getting out of all this?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It seems to me Trumps strategy is always to promise different, often contradictory, things to different people. Anti elite is the red thread.

  By tearing the entire country down, I guess a lot of his base feels he is successfully fucking up the elites. They like him because his different and promises real change, and I guess that's what they are getting.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When would it make sense for someone to get a domain name?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  If you need to maintain any sort of public presence for private or professional purposes, having your own website and domain puts you in control over your own content. I see mine partly as a platform to instantly publish whatever I feel like, partly as a fun thing to tinker with, and partly as a LinkedIn alternative where people look me up online and I'm in control over what they see and which cookies they have to accept (none).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Focus: DeepSeek gives Europe's tech firms a chance to catch up in global AI race⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Breaking: EU lags behind in race to suck as much as America.

  Sorry, but I don't particularly feel like catching up.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  For the love of everything, please do take to the streets. Better late than never.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Permabanned from Reddit?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  If you can't find them, don't hesitate to create them! Might be challenging to find users and get them up and running, but you gotta start somewhere, and you sound like the kind of person who is up for the task.

  Welcome aboard!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Permabanned from Reddit?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Other things I like:

  • The decentralized nature means you will never truly be banned from everywhere unless your behaviour is universally considered unacceptable, in which case good riddance
  • There are fewer of us, so some people care about keeping individual users around. I've still received bans from communities for reasons I find questionable, but that's in the nature of having people manage communities themselves.