No more… Mr. Clea-hehehean!
No more Mr. Nice guy
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Kertyna@feddit.nl 2 days ago
Rooty@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Setting up healthy boundaries is ok, yknow?
primrosepathspeedrun@anarchist.nexus 2 days ago
I’m here if you need lessons.
Kyrgizion@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Unironically, can you give us some insights that aren’t the same tired 8 points repeated on every self-help blog?
Hackworth@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Probably not, but this is what I try to remember. People pleasing is a weird kind of arrogance. It feels like a selfless sacrifice, but it’s fundamentally an attempt at control. We cannot control the internal state of others. People are not going to always be pleased, nor should they be. And on the other side, those that encourage people pleasing behavior are (perhaps unintentionally) trying to control or exploit me.
primrosepathspeedrun@anarchist.nexus 2 days ago
Also try just setting stuff on fire. But never stuff they want to be on fire.
primrosepathspeedrun@anarchist.nexus 2 days ago
Okay. Tell people they’re wrong. Bonus points if they can’t give an intelligent rebuttal.
Try to control narratives and undermine the ones where others can be virtuous.
Be sanctimonious.
Do not compromise. This one’s extra good if you actually believe in things, and your obstinance is rooted in virtue.
Don’t just go after proximal causes; attack the bones of the ideas and systems people rely on. They fucking hate that.
Dont be legible. Make people feel like assholes when they talk about you.
Be kinda gross.
Do something annoying
Find things people would hate that they can’t call out or describe without undermining their professed morality.
primrosepathspeedrun@anarchist.nexus 2 days ago
On how to be actively unpleasant? Yes. Do you want them?