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kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

Yeah… it can be interpreted that way. But even as a feminist myself, it is a dumb performative sort of protest. Paternal surnames are the least important fixtures of our patriarchal society, and, unless it was created wholecloth, there are no surnames that aren’t patriarchal historical lyrics, as the meme points out.

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hungryphrog@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
Yeah, I wasn’t trying to call you a misogynist, just point out how the meme might look at first glance.

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- kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  Wasn’t my post, just advocating for OP
  
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  - hungryphrog@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    oh, right
    
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zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
If they think their actions are having much effect, sure, but otherwise I think you’re making assumptions and overreacting. Not everything is for show, people can do things like that just because they personally want to.

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- kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  The context of the meme implied she was doing it because she’s a feminist and that taking her mother’s name was somehow an expression of that. Of course she can do that, but it isn’t achieving anything if that was the goal
  
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  - spujb@lemmy.cafe ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    she is achieving and asserting herself, a right that is denied to her on most every other level.
    
    names are symbols. taking ownership of your name may not be material, but it is meaningful. if names were meaningless, trans people wouldn’t change their names, African-American communities wouldn’t change their names, et cetera. but they do, and feminists do, because achieving oneself, having domain over oneself even to the extent of identity, is meaningful especially against a history where that right is restricted against you in favor of the dominant class.
    
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    kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    Sure. It would be personally meaningful. Changing your name is always meaningful, I would hope. But it is not contributing to the the dismantling of the patriarchal norms. Not every action has to be, of course. But the conceit of this post is implied to be that her intention was just that, a rejection of patriarchal naming conventions. If that was her intention, it was misguided and failed to achieve that goal.
    
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  - zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    Okay, and? Why is your immediate thought to mock that?
    
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    kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    I didn’t mock it. The meme did.
    
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