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vestmoria@linux.community ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

but don’t you hate your life or makes it very miserable and tiring?

I mean, expecting everyone to fuck me over would make me angrier I believe, like going to work and constantly ruminate about how every coworker and client is going to ruin my day.

If you are a cynic, how do you don’t ruminate?

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Glide@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
Cynicism is horrible. It is slowly training your brain to always assume the worst in everything and everyone, and has little to do with expectations. Cynicism legitimizes the anger you already feel, and makes it “okay” to yell about it, rather than taking control of your emotions.

You need a philosophy that allows you to take control, not one that justifies your helplessness. Mindfulness practices, and/or existentialist thought eventually leading to positive nihilism can help you.

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prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
Nihilism might be able to assuage it, but yeah in my experience, yeah it’s depressing. But that’s because reality is depressing, and I’m actually paying attention to it.

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FourPacketsOfPeanuts@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
If you’re cynical in your rumination then there isn’t much to ruminate about.

Don’t you hate your life

Cynicism is a vent. It’s cathartic where is truthful. There’s no point being angry “at god”, there isn’t one there. You can be angry at people, but only if it serves you. If the anger is pointless it’s easier to discard it. If it has a point (you’re going to complain to someone’s superior) then it can be a useful motivator. I hate discomfort, so I work until I’m comfortable. I expect people to be self serving (this doesn’t require any energy on my part) and I’m pleasantly surprised when they’re not. Neither an I self serving, when I do things for others it feels like I’m sticking two fingers up at a system that would rather I’m a self centred ghoulish consumer. I guess it could be summed up as having very low expectations. But rather than being depressing I find it has the effect of creating joy in everyday mundane things.

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