Comment on There are some downsides to marriage

• Acinonyx@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  doesn’t really matter if you only ask whether someone’s fine or not

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  • poplargrove@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Theres some strange “culture” around straight relationships and jokes about how your wife sucks is an example of it.

    Asking “are the straights ok” is to express that you notice an example of that, obviously not an actual question about mental health.

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    • Acinonyx@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      so the unhealthy thing straights do is making bad jokes about their partner, while in contrast non-straights are more likely to commit / experience domestic abuse.

      Previous studies, when analyzed together, indicate that domestic violence affects 25 percent to 75 percent of lesbian, gay and bisexual individuals. However, a lack of representative data and underreporting of abuse paints an incomplete picture of the true landscape, suggesting even higher rates. An estimated one in four heterosexual women experience domestic abuse, with rates significantly lower for heterosexual men. [source]

      but sure, we should ask specifically about the wellbeing of the straights

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      • poplargrove@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        As I pointed out, “are the straights ok” has nothing to do with actual wellbeing. Its meant to express surprise the same way someone might reply to “I like pineapples on pizza” with “are you ok?”.

        Theres nothing to take offence over. Im straight myself. I probably did a bad job at explaining what the phrase takes aim at. See /r/AreTheStraightsOK on Reddit for examples of what it means.

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