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Is this supposed to be a description about a person with adhd or a person without cuz that description was spot on for some of my relatives with adhd in that they can’t hold attention on one thing too long so passion and interest was very brief. And if we’re studying one relative I had in particular, she was constantly trying to fit in and buy things to fill a void. It did much harm. ADHD was only one of the comorbidity she was struggling with.

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Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
It’s a description of “neurotypical people” from the perspective of somebody who has autism/ADHD.

Neurotypicals tend to lack curiosity and passion for interests.

This is opposed to autistic people “having intense interests.” If a high level of interest in a particular topic is my “normal,” then other people’s levels of interests seem very low by comparison.

They’re less in-touch with their senses, sometimes needing mind-altering substances in order to appreciate basic sensory stimuli.

This is opposed to autistic people “stimming” in various forms. Exploring textures, staring at interesting lights, engaging in repetitive physical movements, and more are all examples of “stimming.” A lot of neurotypical people wouldn’t wave their hands between their eyes and a light just to enjoy the visual (and physical) sensations that arise from it - unless they’re tripping balls. Some people can’t seem to appreciate a super soft blanket, a complicated painting, or how strange their own body feels, until they’ve taken some kind of mind-altering substance that heightens their sensory experience. Even just on thoughts and ideas alone, I can’t count how many times I’ve said things that made people go, “What are you smoking? (And are you willing to share?)”

Not only that, but they are overly-invested in “following the group” and “blending in,” even if it ends up harming them.

When you’ve always stuck out, the idea of “blending in” is laughable. I’ve never had the luxury of being a wallflower. I’ve come across so many people who have had good reason to speak up or stand out, yet they’d been terrified of breaking from conformity. From the perspective of someone who lacks the compulsive need to align themselves with an in-group, being so scared of “standing out” feels rather silly.

Does that help make more sense?

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- Smoogs@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
  
  lacks the compulsive need to align themselves with an in-group
  
  Don’t hold back. Just come out and say it that you think people who can actually hold a conversation with each other are just pathetic and you look down on them.
  
  Not that distant from what an incel would write.
  
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  - Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
    Is there any particular reason why you’re trying so hard to find an insult? Surely, you understand that not every autistic person is a hate-filled incel?
    
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dodgy_bagel@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
AuDHD refers to simultaneous autism + ADHD.

Some symptoms appear to “cancel out” each other from an external perspective.

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- Smoogs@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  my neighbour’s son is autistic with adhd. Their son was preyed upon by a gang. and my nephew is autistic with adhd but presents very differently. Hopefully he will grow to not be so easily taken as the neighbour’s son. it’s so tragic.
  
  my niece is adhd. Their father was adhd but again, very different.
  
  No two are exactly the same.
  
  It’s a massive stretch to say simply being atypical means you’re invulnerable to peer pressure. If anything it’s been quite the opposite.
  
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  - dodgy_bagel@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    You edited your original post. I thought you were unaware of what AuDHD meant. I’m not for or against anything anyone else wrote, mostly because I’m half-reading while intermittently socializing with inlaws on Christmas eve.
    
    Carry on.
    
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