Idgaf if dude can be gendered

good for you, some people really don’t want to be called that.
part of respecting someone’s identity is respecting the terms which they want and don’t want to be called by.
getting them wrong doesn’t make you an asshole, getting them wrong and not caring does.

People need to get over themselves

in this context this is identical to Conservative “the new generation is too sensitive!!!” drivel.