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Spzi@lemm.ee ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

we get called something that implies you won’t take us seriously (e.g. genocide denier is a more common one among others we’d consider on the left), why bother with civility or politeness?

Interesting you’re commonly being called genocide deniers. I haven’t seen a specific case yet, but I’ve seen the accusation frequently.

You seem to imply the accusation is not justified. But assuming this is case, you do note it is brought up frequently. You may also be aware that most other communities don’t have that issue.

So if you are right and you are not genocide deniers, where is communication going wrong that others still frequently think you are? Maybe you can present your ideas in a way which is less misleading, to make yourself better understood. To help others to understand you better.

A common practice is to distance yourself from a bad thing for which you don’t want to be mistaken. Inversely, the lack of such distancing can sometimes be seen as evidence for alignment with bad things.


If you’re still with me, let’s switch perspectives for a second. Assuming you realize you’re talking with a genocide denier, which you despise very much. Would you care wether they deny genocide politely and with civility (if that last bit even makes sense)? I’d say you probably already lost the conversation if the other side thinks you’re a genocide denier, and how much effort you put into being polite and ‘civil’ is meaningless at this point.


From my understanding, the term “genocide denier” correlates strongly with arguing in bad faith, and not taking things seriously. It seemed important to you that you are the opposite; arguing in good faith and you want to be taken seriously. Which highlights the importance of the first section of this comment. Help others understand easier and clearer who you are, or who you are not. If you are commonly misunderstood, it’s probably worth questioning where things go wrong and how you can change how you are being perceived.

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