Comment

Honestly, it’s the only thing I miss as middle aged single dad not dating. Someone to rub my hair while I cry in their lap. Nobody’s taken care of me in decades. I’ve got a lot to cry about. Kinda sucks. Anyway… Back to manning up and working to exhaustion another few decades.

source

Sort:hotnew top

southsamurai@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
Fwiw, even if you don’t have access to a good comfort companion, you deserve it.

source
- blazeknave@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  Thanks! We just lost our only free roaming pet so when the kid is away it’s even emptier. I used to put my head on our cat’s furry belly as she purred and stretched, laid her chin on my arm it hand to keep me there. She always knew… Saunter from across the house, hop on the bed, start kneading, settle in for a cuddle… like she could hear my pulse and breathing change in her sleep several rooms away. Having said that, writing this response to your comment made me realize maybe I’ve been reaching out to start dating bc without the kitty crutch, I’m feeling I need that satisfaction from an actual human? 🤷
  
  source
  - southsamurai@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    As much as we can love animals, and they us, it isn’t the same. It would be nice if it did fully fill that hole we have where another person should be. They try, that’s for sure, but it just isn’t the same.
    
    It really sucks extra when you lose that animal though. When we lost our dog, if I hadn’t had my wife and kid, I would have eaten a bullet. No exaggeration, until I got married, that dog was my reason to make it another day. She would know when it was close, and wouldn’t let me do anything at all until I pulled back from the edge.
    
    I’m lucky. So damn lucky.
    
    You’ll find someone. A good dad, a person that’s open to that kind of intimacy and trust? Anyone you run across would be lucky to have you.
    
    source