Comment on Why do I tend to reply in the same amount of time it took my friends to?
undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 2 weeks agoit’s a bad to look “desperate”
I see this from time to time, and really all I can think is “do people really think like this?”
I work from home and a lot of times while waiting for CI I take a look at my phone and oftentimes I get texts and respond immediately.
Who is it exactly that would perceive this as desperate? I’m not going to hide the fact I was at my phone when I was just to make people think higher of me, and I really don’t understand this thinking at all.
If you respond instantly at any point during the day it can mean you’re not doing anything the entire day or you’re actually desperate for interaction. If you don’t feel secure in your relationship with someone you might want them to think you have a lot going on.
Also, some research shows being less available can make you seem more valuable. This article is related to business relationships but it’s the same principle. www.nytimes.com/…/benefits-of-being-scarce.html
EmbarrassedDrum@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
I agree with what you’re saying. if you just happen to be on the phone when someone texts, there’s no problem in answering immediately.
I don’t think anyone is “desperate” is they reply quick. I just think they replied quick.
If I think they’re busy and don’t wanna interrupt, then they’ll just read the message at their own time. Don’t see any reason to play these games.
undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 2 weeks ago
Me neither. I don’t expect texting to be instant either and basically have the same attitude you do.
I remember for the longest time family would be angry that I texted them at night, and I’d always think to myself “then just respond later?”
EmbarrassedDrum@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
I’m with you at texting late. tho I learned people don’t silence their phones at night and it may wake them, so I learned to avoid that