Let me put it in much fever words.

How can you claim to love me, even as you accept a god that judges me deserving of literally infinite pain? If am truly that bad, how can you possibly deserve your acceptance?

And if I’m not that bad, how can you be ok with worshipping a god, that so insanely arbitrarily, condemns someone you love?

You cannot save me. The only way out for me, in your belief system, is for your god to spare me. But you and me both know you don’t worship that kind of god.