No amount of desirable hobbies will ever make up for ugly. If you’re handsome then your hobbies are considered cute and they are markers of your creativity. If you are ugly then those same hobbies are evidence that you are a dweeb, goober, dork, or weird.
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Asafum@feddit.nl 4 weeks ago
It’s a shame being attractive is the most important thing about being attractive lol
I’m into cooking, astronomy, photography (astrophotography), and hiking. Used online dating (listed all those things) for almost 10 years and went on something like 7 dates.
skeezix@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
BugleFingers@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
I have a few in that list too and yeah, online dating is really rough. I’ve had way more success meeting people IRL. Now that I’m a proper adult though, my hobbies don’t really expose me to meeting new people and that’s where it gets extra hard. Still haven’t found a solution to get me out into public to meet people, friends or dating.
Sonor@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Online dating is the most damaging and predatory thing for man. I think at this point research shows quite clearly that is very detrimental for men’s mental health
Asafum@feddit.nl 4 weeks ago
Can confirm.
If self worth would have a numerical value, before online dating mine was in the single digits, maybe teens, out of 100. After, it’s deep in the negatives.
Asafum@feddit.nl 4 weeks ago
That’s a pretty big issue of mine as well. I’m 38 and I live around a sea of old people. Not only is where I live too expensive for people my age, but there isn’t really anything to do where you could meet someone. I have absolutely no interest in going to a bar, I don’t even drink anymore.