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Kusimulkku@lemm.ee ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

If everyone else thought she was flirting then I think it makes the situation a bit more complicated

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GetOffMyLan@programming.dev ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Indeed. But some people come across like that. I had a friend who never realised they were seeming super flirty all the time when really they were just being nice to people.

Also 4chan so easily a lie.

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- Kusimulkku@lemm.ee ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  If it was accidentally (she didn’t realize) then could be just an unfortunate misunderstanding.
  
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iheartneopets@lemm.ee ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Everyone keeps saying she was flirting, but I really think she was just trying to make a friend, but everyone saw ‘flirting’ because of their genders. The post literally says she has no friends.

This is why women tend to be wary of friendships with guys; any time we do, we get come on to because any amount of friendly interaction is perceived as flirting, or ditched because the guy we thought we were trying to befriend finds out we have a boyfriend.

Shit, if I were this girl who struggled to make friends, thought I had found one finally, but get friend-dumped when they find out they can’t fuck me (for the millionth time in her life, I’m sure), I’d probably quit, too.

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- Kusimulkku@lemm.ee ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  She could’ve been trying to make a friend and it was all an unfortunate misunderstanding. Both having been a bit more forward about things could’ve helped.
  
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  - iheartneopets@lemm.ee ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    I understand what you’re saying, but there’s also a huge stigma around being a girl and leading with the fact that you have an SO. Like most things socially for women, it feels like you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t when trying to befriend men most of the time.
    
    I’ve personally tried both methods throughout my life, and have lost every friendship with men I’ve tried to have because of it. It gets pretty lonely, since the other women in my immediate community aren’t really interested in my gaming hobbies. I end up a lot like this girl on the post, with no friends of either gender.
    
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