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Viking_Hippie@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

I’d argue that people are not obligated to learn

I mean technically being selfish isn’t illegal… Still better for everyone if they aren’t, though 🤷

If they don’t want to learn what you need to be happy with them, leave them.

Except for the fact that the next one along is gonna get bad sex too. A lover is like a public park: when you’re done using it, the polite thing is to leave it as good or better than when you arrived.

Don’t push them to do something they don’t want to do.

Unlike the OP, I’m advocating for constructive criticism and pointers. That’s not pushing. That’s nudging at most.

There’s no reason to be hostile about it.

If you think giving helpful advice on how you can better please someone in bed, in stead of pretending that they’re already a champion, is hostile behavior, that’s a YOU problem…

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angrystego@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Laughing at someone is hostile. Parting ways amicably is much better. I also think that men should not be pressed to do things they don’t want to do in bed. Also, not every woman enjoys the same methods, so teaching a man something might not work for his next partner. People have different tastes in sexual stuff. It’s necessary to communicate and be prepared that there can be different preferences. It’s ok if someone doesn’t want to do some stuff in bed.

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- Viking_Hippie@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  
  Laughing at someone is hostile
  
  As I made clear in another comment, that part was a joke. As in I didn’t mean it. I don’t endorse body shaming, even if someone’s a selfish lover lol
  
  Parting ways amicably is much better.
  
  Yeah, obviously.
  
  I also think that men should not be pressed to do things they don’t want to do in bed
  
  Nobody’s suggesting that. Can we do this without the strawmen, please?
  
  Also, not every woman enjoys the same methods, so teaching a man something might not work for his next partner.
  
  Sure, but some things work for more than one person. Such as being open to suggestions of how to improve. Which needs to be a two-way street and voluntary, of course.
  
  People have different tastes in sexual stuff.
  
  You don’t say?
  
  It’s necessary to communicate and be prepared that there can be different preferences
  
  Of course. That’s what I’m advocating for.
  
  It’s ok if someone doesn’t want to do some stuff in bed.
  
  Again, I never said to force anyone to do anything. I meant something along the lines of “X isn’t really working for me, could you try Y?” or “I really like X, is that something you’re into?”, NOT “do X or get out!”
  
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  - angrystego@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    So are we actually on the same page? It seems we agree with each other, which is nice.
    
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    Viking_Hippie@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Yeah, I think so 😁 🤜
    
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