Comment on Daily Discussion Thread: šš¶šāš¦ŗš© Saturday, November 9, 2024
RustyRaven@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØmonthā© agoI generally prefer to condense my mid life crises into a short but intense period of reading and planning. As I get a heads up from my older sister reaching significant milestones a few years before I do any crisis is over before the applicable birthdate.
I donāt think I had much of a crisis at 40 though, it was more just a short-lived āgosh, when did I get so old!ā feeling. 50 was much bigger and led to some major introspection and mapping out of life goals and plans. It probably took a couple of years to get through that. But I started early, so Iām pretty much done even though I have another year before I actually get to 50 myself.
makingStuffForFun@lemmy.ml āØ1ā© āØmonthā© ago
Agree. 40 was easy. Upcoming 50 is the real deal. 40 I was actually still good looking, fit, etc. 50, the aging is real. Introspection, reflecting, etc all been going on for some time.
RustyRaven@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØmonthā© ago
I think there are two types of mid life crisis, which loosly correlate to 40 & 50 years (but are probably more influenced by life events than the actual age).
The first is realising youāve reached an age where you expected to achieve or have a bunch of things you want, and you might either realise that some goals are not going to happen, or might decide itās time to go out and buy or do things youāve been planning for ālaterā.
But the second one is more confronting - you realise your body is starting to slow down, you have parents who are needing care or passing away, and you realise retirement is on the horizon rather than a far distant future. Some people use it this realisation to accept and plan for the future. Thatās what Iāve been doing, Iāve worked out finances, plans for retirement, plans for caring for my parents and eventually plans for myself to wind down and move into supported accommodation or aged care. Itās surprisingly reasuring, instead of a scary void in the future I have realistic plans and know I have finances in place to have a decent retirment - if things go well there might even be some room for extravagence!
Other people get scared at the second stage and choose to deny it instead. They fob off planning for old age with āwhen I get like that just take me out and shoot meā and refuse to concede to the reality of an aging body - these are the people who fall off ladders trying to clean the gutters, have nasty accidents because they refuse to stop driving, or fall over, break a hip and lie on the floor for hours becuse they refuse mobility aids and emergency alerts. If they have also YOLOād the ākidās inheritanceā away without realising it was actually their own aged care funding they were spending they can end up in a pretty shitty place. Itās a bit of a self fulfilling prophecy - avoiding planning for aging because you are scared of it tend to create the sort of situations that make aging something to be scared of.
indisin@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØmonthā© ago
I was just joshing mate but completely agreed. This is the third time Iāve been through this so Iāve learnt from my mistakes of the past and is why Iāll always tell you Iām 25 + number that adds up to my real age.
Iām looking forward to 50 as Iām sure Iāll have everything figured out by then.
Itās just super weird getting old and knowing my parents had me when they were like 15-18 years younger than me, and here I am living in a different country, traveling to others and still going to gigs.