Well, we’re doing both so it’s okay.
/s

It IS really hard to understand what someone is going through if you’ve never been in that position yourself, and even then it’s hard.

On the other hand: You never know when to attribute a behavior from someone to malice. And it’s also very easy to stop working on oneself when not pressured in doing so, especially for addicts.

So yeah, a bit of banter is necessary.