If an incel becomes a family man, he isn’t an incel anymore. It’s part of the definition of incel. Also, they don’t have a better life for it, but a better life despite it (if they even have a better life, incels tend to sabotage their own happines). And you say we shouldn’t marginalise men,but it’s okay to marginalise women?
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NastyNative@mander.xyz 2 weeks agoIncels? there are plenty of family men that think this way. They stuck to their preferences and have a much better life for it. We shouldn’t marginalize them for it and give them names that don’t make any sense also being afraid to speak about preferences is not good.
abbadon420@lemm.ee 2 weeks ago
NastyNative@mander.xyz 2 weeks ago
All this inclusivity talk but keep shitting on incels?? How does that work?
abbadon420@lemm.ee 2 weeks ago
Basic human society. Hunters and gatherers did it too.
People formed tribes to build a circle of trusted people, those outside the tribe were not trusted by default. It was a basic survivval technique. Tribesmen who broke the trust were kicked out. People who wanted to join the tribe had to prove their trustworthiness.
Inclusively people are a global tribe. You are not in the tribe because you have proven yourself not trustworthy. You cannot be trusted to treat all tribe members with respect. If you want to be back in the tribe, you will have to prove yourself.
NastyNative@mander.xyz 2 weeks ago
For some one that is offended by 3 preferences and talks all this inclusivity. You are a hypocrite!
gcheliotis@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Preferences are fine. It still matters how you express them. In the current zeitgeist, with inceldom being a thing, the way these preferences were expressed smacked of that. The fact that you want to defend this specific trifecta of otherwise completely unrelated preferences, claiming they lead to a better life, makes me think you might be an incel yourself, or maybe just a conservative who’s consumed a few too many such videos promoting “family values” and purporting that these are threatened by a woman’s weight, or her having to raise a child on her own, or her seeking love and attention on dating apps. I do not think we should marginalize conservatives. But I do think we should marginalize misogyny.
NastyNative@mander.xyz 2 weeks ago
How you express them is crazy lol… express them by not being afraid. Never be afraid to say them so it can be heard and respected. You talk all this inclusivity and shit on incels.
gcheliotis@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Hmm I am not sure I understand what you’re saying or that you understood anything I said. Maybe we are talking past each other. Nevermind, let’s forget about incels. Main point is whatever your preferences, framing them positively helps.