You are very welcome:-).

My journey was similar, and in fact from what I hear of people talking, that applies to most and probably all of us (e.g. regardless of what people “say” about opening themselves up to a wider expression of ideas, we all tend to retreat to places that are comfortable or familiar - the only difference is whether we honestly acknowledge that an instance admin has done the work for someone of outright banning people who have dissenting opinions, vs. whether we implement those efforts by ourselves).

Personally I had to put in MONTHS of effort to make the Fediverse “usable”, as I switched around between various instances. My start was Kbin.social, which before it went defunct I noticed how much friendlier the Fediverse seemed, compared to Reddit!!! But when it stopped working I switched over to startrek.website and then to my current account at discuss.online, neither of which block hexbear.net (and the former is quite rare in not even blocking lemmygrad.ml, as most others do). The “feedback” to a comment in ChapoTrapHouse and something in lemmygrad.ml, which persisted for WEEKS and WEEKS, each, after what I considered a fairly innocuous comment, almost convinced me to drop social media entirely… but I persisted, and after finally blocking lemmy.ml, I am now quite happy with it. Ofc my personal user blocklist is still quite long - but blocking the big 3 immediately improved by experience by >95%.

Likewise, you can ditch a lot of news stories that have the most clickbait titles by blocking the bots that post them, while retaining the rest of the community that may then have content that you actually want to see. Unfortunately, nearly everything in Lemmy is “opt-out” rather than “opt-in”, but… it is what it is, and it can be workable, as we both (& everyone else here) have found. Also, there are shining beacons of hope - e.g. check out !globalnews@lemmy.zip, which is now #9 if you type “news” in the list of communities on your instance and sort by user count, but when it was told to me it was MUCH further down the list iirc, and therefore quite buried and exceedingly difficult for newer people to find, but avoids a lot of the spammy !worldnews@lemmy.world. i.e. I am saying that if someone wanted “news”, but less of it and only some of the most interesting stuff, then this “Interesting Global News” fits the bill, yet is opt-in rather than opt-out:-).

And therefore our monkey-brains forget all the pain that came before, to get us to this point.:-) Which is healthy, b/c why carry forward that negativity when you don’t have to?:-P But then when people looked at me with such a horrified expression on their face, I literally could not figure out why, at first, b/c my own experiences are so VERY different than theirs. Also those kinds of posts don’t dominate everyone’s feed every day, also we keep hearing of places like X/Twitter that do somewhat similarly so… at some point, isn’t that up to you, to curate your own feed, just like literally everywhere else? Like, why would you stay on Reddit but not try out Lemmy then, when this aspect is the same?

But then again, I am a Unix programmer, and most people do not think like us:-). i.e., not everyone is willing to RTFM in its entirety prior to being able to make realistic use of anything here. Also, anytime there is a major election in the USA or UK such posts have a way of popping up all over the world… but since then they have receded (it looks like?), and thus again we forget, until it comes back around again.

Mind you, like you, I would love to see more content-creators here on the Fediverse!!! I mean, I am here, and would benefit from such, and college students are exactly the crowd that might do so - creative people letting off steam by posting interesting material, presented in a funny way? Yes please!:-) But… yeah, all of the aforementioned “issues” are definitely more than a little bit of a minefield, for the uninitiated.

Also, this is where we enjoy chatting, but there is very little to no actual “content” on the Fediverse atm - everything is posted here from elsewhere, and unlike even Reddit, I am not aware of e.g. answers to technical questions given here that exist nowhere else. So like you said that you wanted to share a video but… off the top of my head, I cannot even think of one that would qualify. I did post a Super cool video on viruses in !videos@lemmy.world, but it only got 3 upvotes - I thought at the time in large measure b/c I posted it immediately after someone else also posted the one (oops, I hadn’t seen it), and yet that one likewise received no (net?) upvotes. Oh, and both of these of course are merely links to YouTube. So… we aren’t all that receptive to “content” of a nature that isn’t news, comedy, maybe fuck-cars, and everything technology but most especially GNU+Linux (sort that community Top for this year and see precisely what I mean), oh and ofc nostalgia e.g. Trogdor the Burninator, obviously.

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So… it’s hard to justify sharing even a video, with all the variety of pitfalls that also await. But… maybe you’ll find a way? Being forewarned is forearmed after all, so now you can go forward more safely!:-)