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mortemtyrannis@lemmy.ml ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

Ahhh they are inextricably linked to a previous partner and you’re expected to become a parental figure if the relationship goes anywhere serious.

Some people (like me) really don’t want an instant family.

I take my hat off to those who don’t have kids but date parents; they are better people than I.

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BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
I wouldn’t mind doing it, but I would have to know the partner really well and feel confident that it would be a stable relationship. I remember having a hard time as a kid when I lost my aunt because her and my uncle had a nasty divorce where she went no contact.

Pros of dating a parent:

You can see how they treat those that are vulnerable and dependent on them

They’re typically more stable, conscientious, and responsible

Good parents know that they have to model healthy behavior, so they practice those

You already know what you are getting with the kids, so it’s not a surprise

The kids inadvertently tell on the parent if the parent is misrepresenting themselves up front

Can do family activities that would normally be considered odd for only adults to partake

The many benefits of being a parent

If there’s shared custody, you regularly get time off from being a parent
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- oatscoop@midwest.social ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Getting older, with an established career makes spontaneity harder as it is. Add kids to the mix and it’s pretty much impossible.
  
  I … don’t want that. I like making last minutes plans, 1-2 week long trips, etc. The most limiting factor for me is dropping off my cat at one of my many friends/family members that can watch it (and I reciprocate with their pets).
  
  If I’m going to date it’s going to be with someone with a compatible lifestyle. I’m not a homebody, and I wouldn’t date someone that by choice or necessity is.
  
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