I think that works on kids where you’re their superior, not on random adults who might view you as equal or even below them.
vzq@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 months ago
My wife told one my nephews who kept making disparaging comments at the tv “cut that shit out. In this house everyone is allowed to be the way they are”.
I think that’s a useful model for this conversation.
lord_ryvan@ttrpg.network 4 months ago
Silentiea@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 months ago
Still works in your house, but you might have to make the problematic person leave.
ilovecheese@feddit.uk 4 months ago
I tried that kind of approach yesterday.
Their response was to mock someone else on TV.
I’ve mentioned it a couple of times now. Last time I told them even if they cant see the issue with it, it bothers me and other people, so cut it out.
The response was something like “yeah other person says that to me too”.
That’s when I start to wonder why I bothered.
vzq@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 months ago
Yes, the difference is that this is aunt to nephew in aunt’s house. There is a definite power differential at work there, so all that’s left to do is to set the norm in a clear but respectful way.
If you don’t have that, and they don’t want to listen, then it’s hard to get through. Things are necessarily going to get either a lot more protracted or a lot less friendly.
ilovecheese@feddit.uk 4 months ago
I’m prepared to lose contact with people that are problematic or toxic, especially those with the more radical views, but it’s not nice to watch someone I’ve known for many years gradually lose all their friends for similar reasons.