IMO, the best ways is through friends. Arrange game/movie nights, picnics, etc, and encourage people to invite their friends. Go with friends to local events, like library or city events, and try to say hi to at least a few new people. Go hiking and chat with others at the destination. Rinse and repeat.
It’s hard (esp. if you’re an introvert like I am), but that’s basically how everyone in my family met their SOs, except one who found their SO later in life through an app. Get outside your comfort zone and meet new people, and eventually you’ll meet someone you hit it off with. And IMO, don’t focus on their gender, just expand your friend circle and someone will have a friend or sibling of your preferred gender and orientation.
Yeah, I think apps are particularly awful because you’re there specifically to find romance, and if you don’t find it, there really is no consolation prize. If you go out and meet people, even if you don’t find romance, you’ll at least meet interesting people and maybe make a few friends.
So that’s why I recommend people avoid apps and instead force themselves into social situations.
HK65@sopuli.xyz 1 month ago
To be honest … where? Third places are closing down, everyone is either at work or at home. So it’s either that or some shitty app.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
IMO, the best ways is through friends. Arrange game/movie nights, picnics, etc, and encourage people to invite their friends. Go with friends to local events, like library or city events, and try to say hi to at least a few new people. Go hiking and chat with others at the destination. Rinse and repeat.
It’s hard (esp. if you’re an introvert like I am), but that’s basically how everyone in my family met their SOs, except one who found their SO later in life through an app. Get outside your comfort zone and meet new people, and eventually you’ll meet someone you hit it off with. And IMO, don’t focus on their gender, just expand your friend circle and someone will have a friend or sibling of your preferred gender and orientation.
HK65@sopuli.xyz 1 month ago
I got lucky, met my other half at uni, and I can’t imagine how shitty dating must be for people who weren’t as lucky as I am.
I see people meeting through apps, but I also see a whole bunch of unhappy people who don’t know how to meet other people.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Yeah, I think apps are particularly awful because you’re there specifically to find romance, and if you don’t find it, there really is no consolation prize. If you go out and meet people, even if you don’t find romance, you’ll at least meet interesting people and maybe make a few friends.
So that’s why I recommend people avoid apps and instead force themselves into social situations.