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JigglySackles@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

I absolutely do pay attention to the lines and am fastidious about not being too close to other vehicles. I’m just saying I see how this can happen, even if I could never see myself doing this.

Distracted people do bone head things and most anyone can be caught up in their own head. It might be that they have multiple sources of high stress overwhelming them, or they had some shocking news, or they are just flat out trying to figure a problem in their life.

I try to give people the benefit of the doubt more now. I try to look for a logical mistake, like in this case coming in the lot in the wrong direction and not paying attention to the lines and realizing not everyone is fastidious as me about parking, I can see the potential for an error like this. Assuming everything is intentional just makes more people upset. Assuming intentionality also dehumanizes the person a little because they aren’t given the chance to be a human that made a mistake.

That’s not to say I never think people are assholes or idiots. I just try to think of a frame for the action. It’s still irresponsible of them to do this, but seeing that as unintentional first instead of intentional first helps me not be as upset with them.

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SocialMediaRefugee@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
Same here. I don’t want to get dinged or be “that person” and I’ll pull out and realign myself if I think my parking was bad. I couldn’t imagine parking like this and thinking it was ok. My guess is they they were in a big rush, figured there was plenty of empty space in the lot and the space next to them was empty and thought “I’ll only be here for a minute”.

Assuming everything is intentional just makes more people upset.

As I learned from Buddhism “Don’t assume everything is aimed at you or deliberate.” Then there is “Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.”

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- JigglySackles@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
  Both of those are concepts I try to keep in mind. On the whole, people are just trying to live their lives and mean nothing personal by their actions whether they are inconsiderate or not.
  
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Mr_Dr_Oink@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
Really good take. Although i do feel that whilst perhaps the act was unintentional in the first instancw and can be forgiven, leaving it that way or not correcting it afterwards is a bit different.

I once watched someone park where i work, and they were across the line a bit, taking 2 spaces out of action, and i thought, whoops! They will notice and sort that. I then watched that person get out of the car, check how they had parked and then fight some internal battle for a full 3 minutes as they moved to walk away, then stopped suddenly and went back to look on a loop. Eventually, they decided to walk away. You would turn up later and give them the benefit of the doubt, but i know they are just an asshole. 😆

I also once saw someone do this at work Image

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- JigglySackles@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
  Lmao beautiful. Yeah, I know someone people are just flat inconsiderate and that’s fine. It’s more for me anyways to assume they aren’t an intentional asshole. I do think everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt, but I’m aware that excuses some assholes that shouldn’t be as well. I’m at a point in life where I’d rather let a few of them pass than accuse someone whose intentions weren’t malicious. Honestly though… I still mutter “asshole” to myself regardless of who they are lol, I just try to mentally check in on why they might not be.
  
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  - Mr_Dr_Oink@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
    Fair play. I should be more like that.
    
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