Pseudonym based social media and utilizing filtering to block content. If there isn’t official filtering tools or community work around then it’s a headache. Also, ability to disable notifications, which is something lemmy or kbin currently does not have that I miss from reddit that helps you drop conversations you don’t want to be a part of anymore.

I enjoyed my time on reddit because of the above, and never really encountered the toxic complaints people often bring up. Ability to curate and control what you see is important to getting the experience you want, since you can’t control what people post. But, being able to control what you see helps a lot.