So I can’t say if the person who said it was imagining her as someone else, or perceiving her genitals as something different from her self image. If it’s the former, I can understand the frustration, but if it’s the latter, then I don’t think one should be so close minded that they’d let their own self image of themselves get in the way of their relationship. I guess that’s just my pov and I’ll leave it at that
Emotions aren’t inherently logical. It’s not so simple as “this shouldn’t make me upset, therefore I won’t be upset.” It could very well be that OOP’s partner did something like refuse to apologize because they “did nothing wrong.” Acknowledging your partner’s feelings and accommodating them is more important than being right.
I think you read the post wrong. This is being posted by a woman. “He” never says he has a bussy. It’s the girlfriend/wife that is upset that her boyfriend/husband was pretending she was a guy, and that her actual pussy was a boys butthole.
nifty@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Yes but where is that indicated in the post? It’s only after he says bussy that she’s got an issue. At least that’s what I can tell 🤷♀️
JackbyDev@programming.dev 5 months ago
Buddy, you do realize that the experience of her hearing that comment made the sex bad for her, right?
nifty@lemmy.world 5 months ago
So I can’t say if the person who said it was imagining her as someone else, or perceiving her genitals as something different from her self image. If it’s the former, I can understand the frustration, but if it’s the latter, then I don’t think one should be so close minded that they’d let their own self image of themselves get in the way of their relationship. I guess that’s just my pov and I’ll leave it at that
JackbyDev@programming.dev 5 months ago
Emotions aren’t inherently logical. It’s not so simple as “this shouldn’t make me upset, therefore I won’t be upset.” It could very well be that OOP’s partner did something like refuse to apologize because they “did nothing wrong.” Acknowledging your partner’s feelings and accommodating them is more important than being right.
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 5 months ago
I think you read the post wrong. This is being posted by a woman. “He” never says he has a bussy. It’s the girlfriend/wife that is upset that her boyfriend/husband was pretending she was a guy, and that her actual pussy was a boys butthole.