Look, I get that when someone’s perception of you is incongruent with your self-concept it can create an internal conflict, and perhaps affect your self-esteem. The theory of self-perception is essentially based on these ideas.
Here’s how I evaluate the situation in this meme, this lady’s vagina may or may not be a bussy but it’s being perceived that way by at least one partner.
Regardless of the perception of that partner, we don’t know if that lady’s vagina is indeed a bussy, and there’s no way for her to say so herself based on a sample size of 1. So her effective experience is that of someone who has a partner who finds her genitals pleasing, but she’s distorting that experience for herself because of the dissonance between her self-concept of her vagina and whatever her partner thinks that vagina is.
Essentially tho, if her “bussy” is helping her get sexual attention and gratification, then I fail to see the problem. To me, it’s like saying “yeah I have a cake, but it’s not the cake I thought I had”, and I am like, a cake is a cake. Enjoy it.
I think you read the post wrong. This is being posted by a woman. “He” never says he has a bussy. It’s the girlfriend/wife that is upset that her boyfriend/husband was pretending she was a guy, and that her actual pussy was a boys butthole.
nifty@lemmy.world 2 years ago
Look, I get that when someone’s perception of you is incongruent with your self-concept it can create an internal conflict, and perhaps affect your self-esteem. The theory of self-perception is essentially based on these ideas.
Here’s how I evaluate the situation in this meme, this lady’s vagina may or may not be a bussy but it’s being perceived that way by at least one partner.
Regardless of the perception of that partner, we don’t know if that lady’s vagina is indeed a bussy, and there’s no way for her to say so herself based on a sample size of 1. So her effective experience is that of someone who has a partner who finds her genitals pleasing, but she’s distorting that experience for herself because of the dissonance between her self-concept of her vagina and whatever her partner thinks that vagina is.
Essentially tho, if her “bussy” is helping her get sexual attention and gratification, then I fail to see the problem. To me, it’s like saying “yeah I have a cake, but it’s not the cake I thought I had”, and I am like, a cake is a cake. Enjoy it.
JackbyDev@programming.dev 2 years ago
You realize it’s possible to have unenjoyable sex, right?
nifty@lemmy.world 2 years ago
Yes but where is that indicated in the post? It’s only after he says bussy that she’s got an issue. At least that’s what I can tell 🤷♀️
JackbyDev@programming.dev 2 years ago
Buddy, you do realize that the experience of her hearing that comment made the sex bad for her, right?
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 2 years ago
I think you read the post wrong. This is being posted by a woman. “He” never says he has a bussy. It’s the girlfriend/wife that is upset that her boyfriend/husband was pretending she was a guy, and that her actual pussy was a boys butthole.