say fuck it, be scared, think I’m creepy, eventually someone will get coffee with me

I mean no but kinda. One thing that’s practically always going to be the case is that you’re physically intimidating, and you should never shirk away from acknowledging that, and be comfortable with it. The trick is to look like a roller-coaster: Intimidating, sure, but it’s not going to throw you around unless you get on and when you do, you’ll still be safe.