The numbers don’t tend to bear that out, and in any case, even the example you cite doesn’t, because it’s implying that the men who are short and ugly are having to be more humorous and have more depth than their tall beautiful counterparts.
I think oftentimes when people complain about this sort of thing they kind of just need someone to empathize with them rather than tell them that oops life’s not fair time to suck it up crybaby, which is generally seen as a callous dickish response but any other issue. Not to say that’s what you’re saying, but I’ve seen that sort of response be pretty common when people sort of, make the point that being tall and good looking will make you more likely to “score”, or get a date or whatever.
No, I’m saying they’re not a great indicator of how people tend to be perceived, and people tend to be complaining about the trends, rather than the outliers. Also that, if you know short and ugly people who are funnier and have better personalities than their taller and handsomer counterparts, and who have had romantic success, that would kind of prove the idea that uglier, shorter people need to work harder correct.
I could probably also explain this with the friendship paradox, which I think I cited recently for a similar thing someone was citing as example.
Interesting, I’ve not seen those - rather, the perception that if a beauty is dating an ugly, then clearly the ugly is rich and the beauty is just trying to take the money (and possibly flee later).
SatansMaggotyCumFart@lemmy.world 5 months ago
I’ve met short/ugly and short ugly people who are able to pull in lots of women with their sense of humour and personality.
daltotron@lemmy.world 5 months ago
The numbers don’t tend to bear that out, and in any case, even the example you cite doesn’t, because it’s implying that the men who are short and ugly are having to be more humorous and have more depth than their tall beautiful counterparts.
I think oftentimes when people complain about this sort of thing they kind of just need someone to empathize with them rather than tell them that oops life’s not fair time to suck it up crybaby, which is generally seen as a callous dickish response but any other issue. Not to say that’s what you’re saying, but I’ve seen that sort of response be pretty common when people sort of, make the point that being tall and good looking will make you more likely to “score”, or get a date or whatever.
SatansMaggotyCumFart@lemmy.world 5 months ago
I’m confused, are you saying the people I know don’t exist?
daltotron@lemmy.world 5 months ago
No, I’m saying they’re not a great indicator of how people tend to be perceived, and people tend to be complaining about the trends, rather than the outliers. Also that, if you know short and ugly people who are funnier and have better personalities than their taller and handsomer counterparts, and who have had romantic success, that would kind of prove the idea that uglier, shorter people need to work harder correct.
I could probably also explain this with the friendship paradox, which I think I cited recently for a similar thing someone was citing as example.
someacnt_@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Interesting, I’ve not seen those - rather, the perception that if a beauty is dating an ugly, then clearly the ugly is rich and the beauty is just trying to take the money (and possibly flee later).