Comment on Giving someone oral is the most intimate thing you can do for someone. (IMO)
tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 months agoAs someone who is sex repulsed, I’m legitimately curious what about it appeals to you? I’d love to know from your perspective
As someone with a high sex drive, it’s not rational. It’s like hunger, or sleepiness. It’s a base biological need and the longer I go without sex the more irritable and depressed I get.
It’s not a need in the sense that I’ll die without it, but it’s a need in the sense that my mental health will deteriorate without it.
Oral is more intimacy focussed, at least as far as giving it is concerned. As the giver you also get immediate and obvious feedback that your partner is finding pleasure in what you are doing (Or that they ARENT enjoying it if you’re fucking it up)
I’m mostly sex repulsed but I find giving oral way more manageable than penetrative sex. Mostly I just don’t like being touched but yes like someone else said, knowing that you’re causing the pleasure for someone else is the appealing part of it. Especially if they’re vocal about it.
See, I feel like I’m the exact opposite. I don’t mind being touched nor (w4w) penetrative sex as much, but it’s also not something I seek out. It’s eh at best. Oral just doesn’t seem enticing either way for me.
jdf038@mander.xyz 7 months ago
Not OC but the idea of making someone feel good makes me feel good. It’s like double the dopamine for me.
I could totally see being grossed out by it when I think about it logically. In fact it is gross when I think about it logically.
Emmie@lemm.ee 7 months ago
Logic is fucking gross. Last I tried it it remind me that I am a meat sack of fat and blood ready to pop