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wathek@discuss.online ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

maybe, but i see quite a few similar reactions in this thread that make me wanna leave this place. its just slowly starting to sink in for me that lemmy is a lefty echo chamber and its basically the same 20 posts rehashed every week by people with worldviews like this. how tf can anyone expect to change anything without hope. Idk man, im just dumping my thoughts but i think im gonna get the hell off this platform and anything similar because it’s not having a positive effect on me.

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RaoulDook@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
That’s not just Lemmy, it’s all of social media that isn’t focused on people’s self-promotion (Instagram, LinkedIn etc). The leftist stuff is fairly accurate, but that’s not a big deal to me.

Social media algorithms have driven the content engagement, and they figured out that controversy and anger drives the most engagement, so that’s what the algorithms tend to push to drive engagement, to get more ad revenue and data from people spending more time on their platforms.

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- livus@kbin.social ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  @RaoulDook I don't think we have that kind of algorithm here, thankfully.
  
  The person you're replying to fundamentally misunderstood my comment though.
  
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livus@kbin.social ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
@wathek I'm really bummed out that my comment made you want to leave!!

@skyspydude1 is right, I was just trying to point out to OP that the old saying "with power comes responsibility" actually cuts both ways and taking on more responsibility gives many people more agency and control over their lives.

how tf can anyone expect to change anything without hope.

I'm still kind of reeling here because I was trying to be encouraging not despairing. I think maybe the word "power" might have some negative connotation for you?

Cards on the table, I think the old Christian binary between altruism (good) and self-interest (bad) does us all a huge disservice. Helping others altruistically and making the world a better place is in our own best interests. We're all humans together.

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- wathek@discuss.online ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  No i didn’t mean it like that, i’m sorry. It’s more of a reaction to the general vibe i get off lemmy while im in a period of trying to debug by brain. If anything, your comment is hopeful. Most of lemmy is just frustrated and sad about things we have little control over. It’s more the general thread reminding me of healthy ways of thinking vs the rest of lemmy. your comment just happened to be where i was thinking out loud. sorry ><
  
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  - livus@kbin.social ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    @wathek thanks. I think it was a misunderstanding caused by my poor communication.
    
    I'm sorry that's been your experience here. It's been very different for me - I was previously on reddit and saw a lot of negativity and cynicism and despair over there. And outright meanness, shills etc.
    
    Kbin/lemmy has made me feel much more revitalised and optimistic, I contribute way more content here, but also somehow have more free time, and I've become a bit more active in my community and local/national politics IRL as well. I feel like I'm really reconnecting with that side of life.
    
    Unfortunately Lemmy isn't that for you, but I hope you find somewhere that is.
    
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