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Potatos_are_not_friends@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

I became a manager because I worked with shitty managers who sit on their ass and promote their friends. I wanted to change that.

I take on harder projects than my peers because I can handle it. It’s easier for me to deal with the stress, than give it to a teammate who would absolutely flounder and lose 4 weekends trying to solve it.

I became a parent because I worked in the school system and taught kids without good families. I used to stay after school just to give these kids a positive influence before they get sent back to their shitty home.

I absolutely do not think about the stress of the added work, but instead focus on the results of my actions (or the results if I don’t do it).

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TomAwsm@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

I became a parent because I worked in the school system and taught kids without good families. I used to stay after school just to give these kids a positive influence before they get sent back to their shitty home.

Don’t take this as criticism, just trying to understand: What’s the logic here? As a teacher without kids (for now), I feel like I’d have more to give to help my pupils if I don’t have kids of my own.

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- cheesymoonshadow@lemmings.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Regardless, thank you both for the work that you do.
  
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- Potatos_are_not_friends@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Thanks for doing what you do.
  
  And I can see the confusion. I grew up in the ghetto, I also wasn’t raised in a good environment. I have children and I’m in the process of adopting as well.
  
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