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CubitOom@infosec.pub 3 months agoI agree. But it all depends on how you do that.
The key is not trying to trick them. Acknowledging their feelings as valid, helping them identify what they are feeling, and help them soothe.
A dismissive parent doesn’t have to ignore a child. Just dismiss that child’s emotions as irrational or not helpful. They might use distractions or tricks which may limit the ability to do the above.
At the end of the day, tricking a child is not a good parenting style even though it can be cute and even funny.
Passerby6497@lemmy.world 3 months ago
That’s fair, and I think that a lot of the disagreement we have is about the definition of the word “trick”. Having a verbally delayed kid meant we had to “trick” them into doing things by finding the right set of words that got them to understand what was needed and didn’t trigger a massive screaming fit where even merely acknowledging them set them off even more.
Your advice is probably spot on for neurotypical kids though. Things get easier as the words come, and it makes it easier to explain to them the ‘why’ behind the things we do, but it still feels like I have to find the magic incantation that unlocks the behavior I want instead of getting screamed at and playing 20 questions to find out the actual issue.
CubitOom@infosec.pub 2 months ago
True. I was trying to use the context in the meme to define “trick” as using deception or distraction.
It still takes a lot of extra time and patience even with neurotypical children. I have to schedule this time in case I need it when bringing my toddler to time slotted appointments. There is an authoritative element that is required as well to try to keep that time boxed and keep limits set while still acknowledging that their experience is valid. It’s not easy at all, but I wouldn’t equate it to dealing with a malevolent entity…maybe I’m just reading too much into a meme.