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scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

Men are in a constant competition to seem manlier than the person next to them.

Of course it’s not until later that it becomes obvious that it’s all just self esteem problems and not being comfortable with ourselves.

The ultimate manliness is realizing you don’t care if other people think you’re manly.

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AmidFuror@fedia.io ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
I see you're trying to be the bigger man by proclaiming you don't care. Not fooling me!

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FiskFisk33@startrek.website ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

I don’t care about being manly

(that makes me super manly btw, right guys?)

🫣

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- scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Who knows at this point! One of my make mentors said it to me years ago. I said something stupid like “isn’t that kind of girly?” About something and he replied “real men don’t care”. Shattered my toxic masculinity.
  
  I’m waaay happier now, and realized I can be whoever I want. I can be an and still be a massive swiftie, enjoy hard rock while enjoying a rom com that same day, it’s just easier
  
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  - FiskFisk33@startrek.website ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    Oh I agree whole heartedly.
    
    I meant more that the last sentence kind of ruined the sentiment.
    
    If you actually don’t care, you don’t finish with how manly that makes you.
    
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- JoBo@feddit.uk ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Yes, yes it does.
  
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GhostFence@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

The ultimate manliness is realizing you don’t care if other people think you’re manly.

Oh I agree - it’s just ~~shocking~~ well not anymore to see people pushing toxic masculinity THIS DAMNED HARD.

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lemann@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
I’m very guilty of this, especially after someone close to me was assaulted by a predatory human being.

I don’t think there’s any easy way back when self esteem & self comfort are destroyed like that either, and just worsens the “competition” thing.

Fully agree with your last point

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