Comment on What is the word for someone who is friends with different groups but doesn't have loyalty to any one group?

• thantik@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  No. Because as a friend, it’s not my job to dictate my friends-friends.

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  • Kanzar@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Ex-cons might not be the best group to use in your example…

    If I had a friend who kept the company of fascists, I’d probably drop them real quick - notably as the current iteration of fascists are intent on ensuring people like me are dead or ground under their boot.

    On the flip side, just because I had a disagreement with someone doesn’t mean other friends can’t be friends with that someone - it takes a lot to be called “an enemy” of myself.

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    • thantik@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Why? If they’re Ex-cons, they’ve done their time and they deserve to be treated the same as everyone else.

      They’re a perfect group to use in my example.

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      • Kanzar@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        It’s precisely that they should be treated the same that I don’t believe they make a good example as someone you wouldn’t want to be associating with.

        You shouldn’t care that mates of yours hang with ex-cons, so there is no conflict to be had there.

        I wasn’t remarking on the incidence rate of fascists, merely commenting on their views.

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    • Dnn@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      If I had a friend who kept the company of fascists, I’d probably drop them real quick

      Not a good way to make them see reason. I know it’s hypothetical but if you’re friends shouldn’t you put in some effort to help instead of just drop them?

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      • Kanzar@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Given how out and proud the sentiments are expressed, the friend can’t say they didn’t know… I wouldn’t waste much time trying to have them see reason. You don’t accidentally join a dinner party where everyone else is a white supremacist, or an anti-vaxxer, or where everything they don’t like is woke and thus should be eliminated.

        Either way I said probably… Which would likely follow as certainly after an attempt to see if maybe they have been wilfully ignorant (still not a good look).

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  • Pat12@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I’ve had friends that were friends with ex-cons, etc.

    you do you but I would definitely want to know if my friends were close with people who’d been in prison. If I worked in a field where they do background checks i would absolutely need to know if my friends were friends with those in prison. There’s a difference between dictating who people are friends with and knowing who people you give information to are close with.

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    • FuglyDuck@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Every where does background checks, these days. In any case we don’t really care about your friends; and outside of ts/sci type clearances, nobody runs checks that deep (or even has the ability to- you need to provide close contacts for them to run a check)

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      • Pat12@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        I live in Asia, if you tell the wrong person you are a democracy supporter you can get arrested or on a watch list

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• squid_slime@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  There reeks of controlling

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