I like some of the other suggestions better than this but if you've already tried communicating about it and other things haven't worked, I wonder if for some cases you could convince him to take a video or a picture. Like, if it's a cool thing he wants you to see instead of interrupting you record it and share it when you're available instead of right now, interrupting you. Again, I think the other proposals are better but I wonder... if you're right about the motivation at least sometimes being just wanting to share something it might be worth attempting.
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Saraphim@lemmy.world 1 year agoThis is a good point. I try to set boundaries and unfortunately he’s committed to the “big reveal”. I know he’s one of those people who likes to “share” life. If he sees something fascinating, he wants me to experience the same fascination so it’s like a surprise. If it’s bad he wants me to feel the same horror he felt when he saw it. Warning me would negate the reveal. We have talked about it frequently and he doesn’t know why he does it, he understands how it could be stressful for me, but can’t seem to break his pattern.
inspired@kbin.social 1 year ago
radix@lemm.ee 1 year ago
At some point it becomes a question of whether or not he’s willing to change his behavior to make you feel better. Some sort of empathy/kindness thing. Even if he didn’t understand why it frustrates you, an empathetic person would change their behavior since it doesn’t inconvenience them all too much to, for instance, send a picture of the thing via text messaging to you.
Another thing to consider: Is the happiness he gains from “sharing” life greater than the frustration you gain from walking all the way over to see whatever it is?