Comment on Why does “come here” bother me so much?
tau@discuss.tchncs.de 1 year ago
What would annoy me about it at least, is the implication that whatever you’re currently doing doesn’t matter at all. To him, whatever is currently on his mind takes precedence over anything you could possibly be doing at the same time. He doesn’t even think about how important or relevant to you the thing is that he wants to show you, because he doesn’t value your time the same as his. You’re supposed to just drop everything and do as you’re told.
Saraphim@lemmy.world 1 year ago
This is also part of the annoyance. He has no problem with interrupting me for whatever he thinks is interesting. I do sometimes feel like he treats me like the entertainment a bit. When he gets a new game, he doesn’t necessarily even want to play it himself first, he wants ME to play it and he gets to watch while I struggle and learn all the shit. I work a very intellectually demanding job and most times the last thing I want to do at 10pm on a Tuesday is learn a whole new thing. If I’m out and he wonders when I’ll be home, or if what I’m doing, or even has a thought he will call me. I’ve explained to him a thousand times that he doesn’t need to know where I am every second of every day, not because he thinks I’m doing anything, but because he just wonders and that curiosity must immediately be satisfied. It’s so stressful to be out with your fucking mom and he calls five minutes after you leave the house and then 10 more times over the next two hours just wondering when you’ll be home. Like, he can’t even wonder. He has to call me so I can give him an answer. It’s exhausting. My mother says it’s a control thing but I don’t think so. I think it’s an urge being satisfied thing.