Comment on Do you ever worry that you're secretly a psychopath that unknowingly manipulates people around you?
humorlessrepost@lemmy.world 9 months agoThere are negative extremes on both ends. Nobody likes the bad kind of “honest” where someone is constantly an asshole for no reason, then hides behind “well would you rather I lie about my hatefulness?” as though it’s the honesty that people dislike rather than the views they’re being honest about.
But plenty of people appreciate genuine honesty.
snooggums@midwest.social 9 months ago
That isn’t honesty, that is being a bully with an excuse. Those people tend to be inconsistent enough that it becomes clear they are not even being honest.
humorlessrepost@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Agreed, but they call it honesty, so when someone says they’ve never encountered a single person who appreciates their honesty, it’s my first suspicion.
TrickDacy@lemmy.world 9 months ago
That might reflect on you just as much as the people you’re suspicious of. What I’m talking about is that someone can ask your honest opinion, you break it to them as gently as you can, and they are obviously crushed by it. There are other varieties of it too, but that’s the one that sucks the most and illustrates that honesty is just not really what most people want if it’s at all a difficult truth.
If you want to play the “I know you’re a shitty person by one comment on the internet” game, go ahead.
humorlessrepost@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Something being my first suspicion is quite different from it being a knowledge claim.