Comment on Anon's friend gets exposed
oatscoop@midwest.social 2 weeks ago“Age gap” by itself isn’t an automatic red flag, and sometimes it’s fine. And if everyone is consenting adults it absolutely isn’t “pedophilia”. But I will want to know more context and have zero problems judging someone based on that.
E.g. someone my age dating a 19 year old: I’m going to assume they’re incredibly immature and/or a creep unless I hear a really good reason they’re not … and I haven’t heard one yet.
iuseasahibtw@ani.social 2 weeks ago
Why do you feel entitled to know more about a strangers relationship?
This is the type of weird shit that makes Westerners look insane to the rest of the world.
If a person’s relationship is fine by the law and their family, then mind your own business.
oatscoop@midwest.social 2 weeks ago
Because I have eyes, ears, and I’m not an idiot? Because I know the difference between “that’s a little different but I don’t see a huge problem” and “Fucking hell, that’s not OK”.
Again: I’ve seen “age gap” relationships that were fine. I’ve also seen them where it was some incredibly fucked up dynamics being acted out.
Mannimarco@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
“I’ve seen “age gap” relationships that were fine. I’ve also seen them where it was some incredibly fucked up dynamics being acted out.”
So like any relationship
oatscoop@midwest.social 2 weeks ago
Yes, like any other relationship.
Like the “conservative” that wants a “trad wife” who’s been shamed into staying submissive to an asshole.
Or the person that goes after vulnerable people because they’re abusive and want someone they know they can abuse.
Or like the person that goes after much younger partners because they’re manipulative, controlling, and have better luck with someone who lack the life experience to see through their bullshit.
It’s almost like in all of those scenarios there’s red flags that indicate there could (again, because apparently reading is hard: not “is” – could) be a problem. Wild.