Indeed you do NOT deserve to be *anybody’*s punching bag. Does she think she’s ‘sharing’ or ‘venting’ or some such, rather than what is actually happening? I appreciate that she is probably not ready to hear that what she’s doing is over the limits of the acceptable. Can only suggest some kind of therapy - for her. But that could be a very delicate negotiation.
Comment on Discussion Thread ⛵ Friday 16 October 2026
Alamutjones@aussie.zone 3 days ago
I realise my sister is not doing great, up to her armpits in mental health crisis. I fully validate the legitimacy of what’s going on. I love her. I very much want to help her, and have come running the moment she’s said “can you watch the kids” or whatever.
I recognise all of these things.
I still don’t think I deserve to be her emotional punching bag because she’s upset with another person who isn’t actually me
Thornburywitch@aussie.zone 3 days ago
Alamutjones@aussie.zone 3 days ago
She got mad at me for cadging a lift from the person she was mad at.
I had no idea of the undercurrent, I just needed transport. Cue shouting at me for doing it this way.
…I’d come there at her request to care for her kids
Thornburywitch@aussie.zone 3 days ago
Had she told you ahead of the transport that she was stroppy at that person? If not, then it’s on her if the incident was unacceptable to her delicate sensibilities. You still don’t deserve to be yelled at. Informed, yes - in good time to make appropriate arrangements. Yelled at, no.
She may also be yelling at herself for forgetting to tell you the reason, or maybe thought she had told you when she hadn’t. She still shouldn’t have done it.Alamutjones@aussie.zone 3 days ago
No, she hadn’t. I had no idea.
She’s,since called me again to look after the kids…yes, of course. I love the kids, I’ll do it.
I apologised to her for upsetting her - I didn’t know, if I had known I would have sorted something else out etc. I truly hadn’t meant to cause her distress, so I chose to be the adult about it.
She blew up at me again. Continues to be mad at me for the whole thing. I still have no idea why I’m the proxy
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 3 days ago
Yeah nah. You don’t deserve that. Maybe start with “I love you and I want to help you but if you yell at me, I’m leaving”.
I’ve actually had to do something similar with my sister who rants loudly about people to me over the phone. I have threatened to hang up and I have done it. I don’t yell so I won’t take it from anyone else.
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