I’m in a similar spot. The best massage for me involves a lot more pressure than most people need. I’m 195cm, 120 kilos (biiig guy) and almost no place has what I need, in my area. Rails on the ceiling so they can walk on my back. It allows them to crack my spine a little and provide enough pressure to break up the knots I get in my lower spine due to scar tissue from a surgery I had years ago.

The only place that has those rails is the local rub and tug. I just explicitly tell them at the start “no happy ending”. Most of the ladies speak enough English to get it. And they’re fine with not doing it, I always give a good tip anyway.