Even if you have relatively good parents, it is still an important step to realize just how many beliefs, habits, personality traits, worldviews, et al you’ve picked up from your childhood, usually primarily your parents. Many of these things are truly bizarre, or at least “not normal”, even a “normal” childhood.
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wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 2 months agoWithout going through steps 1 and 2 it’s impossible to get to steps 3, 4, and 5 without feeling gaslit and invalidated just like you always were growing up, which can rehash and reinforce the trauma, perpetuating the cycle.
That’s what society in general, and people who had healthy parents, don’t understand. They want us all to skip to the end of the process, ignoring the fact that not everyone was so fortunate to be raised by emotionally intelligent people.
A very basic understanding of developmental psychology is all it takes to see how significantly the influences of one’s formative years can impact their social and emotional development long into adulthood.
BladeFederation@piefed.social 2 months ago
wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 2 months ago
Yes, that’s true. But boy do many people have a much better starting point depending on the emotional health/maturity of their parents
BladeFederation@piefed.social 2 months ago
For sure
cheers_queers@lemmy.zip 2 months ago
and in severe cases, lifelong health issues, such as autoimmnue disorders, suicidal ideation, etc. thanks mom and dad!
wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 2 months ago
Yes. You deserved better than what you got. Unfortunately the only requirement for becoming parents is a pair of working genitals.
I hope you’ve found or are finding the healing and support that you need.
cheers_queers@lemmy.zip 2 months ago
thank you so much, i have a wonderful support system and my own little family. things are still difficult but i have come far.
wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 2 months ago
That’s great to hear