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Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

I don’t agree. Consent isn’t a kink. It’s a baseline bare minimum.

Without it, anything you do IS rape.

Kinky sex does require communication. From there you can go anywhere you both want.

But even standard vanilla no frills sex ALSO requires consent.

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froh42@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Should I have added a sarcasm marker? I experience it regularly that people involved in kink care about consent - and a lot of vanilla people don’t. Which is awful.

Yes, you always need consent.

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danciestlobster@lemmy.zip ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
That’s interesting. I would have said kink is more about the activity being done than the conversation and lead up to it. I mean the conversation is obviously important but I wouldn’t have thought part of the definition

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- froh42@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Kink is stuff “out of the percieved norm”, so it has developed a culture of finding consent, that - sadly! - a lot of “normal people” don’t have.
  
  I want this always.
  
  (And I’ve probably confused the person following up to my comment with my attempt of sarcasm)
  
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