Oh, I didn’t know. Well, every day you learn something, I guess.
Comment on Anon is a tired bissexual
Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus 2 weeks agoCould be, but i have, like i said, heard that women have a real issue with hooking up with bi men. @fryd@sh.itjust.works made me aware of the stigma around bi guys, and i really have to agree it’s fucking stupid (cmon girls, where’s the issue if the guy likes the occasional cock if your sexual life has been centered around getting fucked by the same body parts)
MeowerMisfit817@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
blarghly@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
It isn’t a stigma. It’s a preference. Sure, some women might not want to date a bi guy because “what will my friends think?” or something. But many will just find the idea of a man wanting to sleep with other men unattractive for literally any reason or lack of reason and that’s fine. Everyone is entitled to their own sexual preferences and, importantly, you aren’t going to talk them out of it. Peoples sexual preferences are about as under their control as their intuition that poop smells bad and flowers smell good. It’s really weird when gay people don’t get this, because they’ve been fighting for the past several decades to get the straights to realize that they aren’t choosing to be gay.
Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus 2 weeks ago
I’d say there is a difference between “your physiology isn’t attractive to me” and “what you like makes me feel icky”. The first one i agree with fully and is completely in line with your arguments; the second one is a social construct and discriminatory.
blarghly@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
What makes a social construct any less real or any more mutible than physiology?
Again, the gay community has been arguing for a while now that gender itself is a social construct. Suppose we have a nice lesbian couple. Then one day, one if the women says to the other “it has taken me a long time to realize this, but I’m actually a man. I’m going to start boxing, shooting guns, focusing on earning lots of money, and rebuilding a Trans Am.” If his (formerly her) partner hears this and loses attraction to him - not through any rational mechanism nor potential change in body shape or dress, but simply because she is turned off by the cultural construct of masculinity - then does that make her attraction discriminatory?
Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus 2 weeks ago
It’s an interesting question. I’d say, with what i have learned over the time, that there is of course some validity here; as you say, these things can change attraction. But I also have to acknowledge that simply the fact that a man won’t rule out men as sexual partners, regardless of if he even realizes that desire, makes him undateable for a lot of women, which i can only see as bigotry - maybe those women see other men as something they can’t compete with, and that is a completely made up thing.
If a man hears from his female date that she doesn’t have reservations against women in her bedroom because she thinks it’s hot, you wont get that same reaction. Probably has to do with the fact that men seldom fear being replaced with a woman. (which is the same kind of bollocks as the fear that women show regarding being replaced by a man - both have about the same probability, the only thing that changed is the amount of selfesteem)