Comment on Anon is a tired bissexual

• Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Could be, but i have, like i said, heard that women have a real issue with hooking up with bi men. @fryd@sh.itjust.works made me aware of the stigma around bi guys, and i really have to agree it’s fucking stupid (cmon girls, where’s the issue if the guy likes the occasional cock if your sexual life has been centered around getting fucked by the same body parts)

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  • blarghly@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    It isn’t a stigma. It’s a preference. Sure, some women might not want to date a bi guy because “what will my friends think?” or something. But many will just find the idea of a man wanting to sleep with other men unattractive for literally any reason or lack of reason and that’s fine. Everyone is entitled to their own sexual preferences and, importantly, you aren’t going to talk them out of it. Peoples sexual preferences are about as under their control as their intuition that poop smells bad and flowers smell good. It’s really weird when gay people don’t get this, because they’ve been fighting for the past several decades to get the straights to realize that they aren’t choosing to be gay.

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    • Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I’d say there is a difference between “your physiology isn’t attractive to me” and “what you like makes me feel icky”. The first one i agree with fully and is completely in line with your arguments; the second one is a social construct and discriminatory.

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      • blarghly@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        What makes a social construct any less real or any more mutible than physiology?

        Again, the gay community has been arguing for a while now that gender itself is a social construct. Suppose we have a nice lesbian couple. Then one day, one if the women says to the other “it has taken me a long time to realize this, but I’m actually a man. I’m going to start boxing, shooting guns, focusing on earning lots of money, and rebuilding a Trans Am.” If his (formerly her) partner hears this and loses attraction to him - not through any rational mechanism nor potential change in body shape or dress, but simply because she is turned off by the cultural construct of masculinity - then does that make her attraction discriminatory?

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  • MeowerMisfit817@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Oh, I didn’t know. Well, every day you learn something, I guess.

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