Comment on Is it reasonable to tell a person you once loved about the fact years later?
swordgeek@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
Don’t do it.
As a general rule, this is a terrible idea. If there are exceptions, it’s clear from your comments that thus is not one of them.
This entire desire is to boost your ego - to validate that your unrequited ‘love’ (crush) made her life better, because you’re such a great guy.
Lwt it go, and grow up a bit more.
nitroemdash@lemmy.wtf 2 weeks ago
I know it’s not, but I don’t think I have a way to prove the contrary over text correspondence, so think as you want.
amio@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Swordgeek has a point - people will have selfish ideas, for selfish reasons. It’s just not very pleasant to have to admit, and therefore people often won’t do it, even to themselves. This makes ulterior motives a lot easier to spot when they’re not your own, and obviously something is up, here.
So if, deep down inside, you happened to be hoping for some kind of self esteem boost or stroked ego… that doesn’t seem very likely. And even if it was, probably not worth bothering a former acquaintance over.
Whatever you were hoping for, you seem pretty hellbent on it - you don’t need to be honest with strangers on lemmy, but might want to re-check your actual motivation here with yourself, because this is stuff that gets creepy real fast.
You want something like this because it seems to rationalize the thing you wanted to do anyway. It is not your real reason for wanting to do it, but you’d have some kind of excuse for a thing people are lining up to tell you is a Bad Idea.