Comment on Why Does Everyone Seem Ahead of Me? ???
sunsofold@lemmy.zip 3 days agoCall them. Talk as humans with your mouth flaps. It’s weird now because people have fallen out of practice, but it’s always still an option to just connect like people have for thousands of years, and feels so much more meaningful than poking a like button.
Spacehooks@reddthat.com 2 days ago
Yeah that’s the answer but like I feel so weird about it. Used to be easy when we were kids but now ppl have variable schedules.
Like my SO has to schedule calls 3 months in advance with friends and then they talk whe. driving. I don’t think there has ever been a call where the friend was not driving somewhere. Another friend cant talk before 9 pm because of kids and we are in bed at 8pm. Its just one excuse after another.
sunsofold@lemmy.zip 2 days ago
People always had variable schedules. The phone has always been a disturbing projection of one’s presence into another person’s home or office. But if you want to have connections to people who don’t live in your house, you pay the price of a few seconds of unreasoning terror as you listen to the ringing and think 'Oh, gods, I’m such an asshole for invading their lives. What if they’re trying to put out a grease fire and my phone call makes them feel like they have to let their house burn down with their pets and kids in it to answer my pathetic, needy demands for their attention? What if they’re having sex and answer anyway so I’m just this disembodied presence in the middle of their coitus? What if they–" and then they answer and are happy to hear from you. Even if they don’t spend six hours on the line, letting them know you had a joke to share with them can make both of your days better and you can say, ‘No worries. Call me back when you’re on the road and we can BS about ostriches for your half an hour of commute time. It’ll at least be better than listening to the news.’