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velma@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks agoThen why DM me to ask in the first place?
I’m sincerely asking. I want you to really think about it.
If there was nothing for you to do about it, since you are not a member, why are you so concerned with womensstuff applying the rules of our community fairly?
Zephyr@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
Well it’s more so a general concern but for that particular instance there was someone else in breach of the same rule I was. I messaged to apologize and just say hey, hope y’all got that other guy too kinda. Didn’t seem harmful to me but if you took offense then I apologize for that as well.
velma@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
I think you need to learn a bit more about how the fediverse works before you start stepping in to make sure moderators are doing their jobs correctly.
You can find the moderators for the community listed in their sidebar. It’s also possible to look at other user’s modlogs depending on the instance you’re using. You would have been able to see that the other user got their comment removed and were also banned from the community.
Instead, you sought out individuals from the community to tattle on them. That is almost always going to leave a bad taste in people’s mouths.
Zephyr@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
Honestly I wasn’t thinking that deep about it. Was far more casual of a statement than this makes it out to seem. My main intention was to apologize which is what I wrote first. It’s not like I wrote an opus on the injustices of a particular community or anything. It was like a five word quip. So I apologize again it came off like that to you.
velma@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
The women’s communities on Lemmy get brigaded by men who are incensed at there being a space they’re not welcome in a lot. Daily.
When you reach out via a DM to tattle and, from my point of view, whine about others getting better treatment than you, it feels like yet another man trying to push boundaries.
We’re allowed to maintain our community the way we want and we’re allowed to reject criticism.
I appreciate that you weren’t trying to break the rules.