I clean up as I cook by loading the cooking items in the dishwasher, arranged to leave places for the serving and eating dishes, which get added immediately after use throughout the day. No rinsing, just scraping. Last thing at night, when I’ve fed the cat and put her used bowl in, I start the dishwasher. It washes and rinses and sanitizes the whole day’s dishes in 3 gallons of water, or about 1½ minutes worth of running my California Water Saver kitchen tap. For a standard unrestricted tap it’s less than a minute. Even a highly efficient hand-washer like yourself will have trouble beating that.

I’m sorry that this topic is getting you so upset. And I’m not saying you ought to change how you do your dishes. It’s likely that in your area there isn’t a constant threat of drought, and your electricity may not come from solar and wind, so the ecological tradeoff works the other way. Plus your method brings you joy, which is worth a lot more than the opinions of a few random people on the internet.